Psychic Swansea

 

A call to center.

 

Hello loves,

 

 

Ideas are a part of the foundation of who and what we are. Life itself is said to be an idea in the mind of God. We are living dreams playing at the idea of being dreamers too. We are everything and nothing at all. That is a fundamental priciple of the Universe. A truth that can never really be tested only experienced. We have been raised to believe that the tapestry of truth is binary. We are told that we are either telling the truth or that we are lying but, as we are culturally seeing, there are many truths and they are all real to the person who holds them. A truth is different from a belief, a belief is different from an idea. For me, I've been revisiting old ideas recently, things that have grown into beliefs and even personal truths. It's fascinating watching a whole narrative play out within your own mind and unravelling it is taking me back to a time where I felt more freedom to choose. It's like rediscovering that you are wonderful, perfect, beautiful and have always been that way but the ideas of wonder, beauty and perfection that have been given to you just don't match their truest essence. Do you remember a time when you wondered at everything? When was the last time you truly stood in awe at the world around you? When was the last time you felt truly beautiful? Not just in how you look but in every corner of your soul. We all felt that free when we were young. We knew our power, we knew our beauty, we knew our courage, our strength and we knew that the world was a giant playground. Then, we all made the mistake of growing up.

 

 

Well, how about we dont? I am not advocating that you throw away all of your responsibilites and just find a sand pit and stay there ( however tempting that may be ) but, how about we start playing with those ideas again? Play for play's sake. Make laughter your spiritual practice. We all seem to be living in a cycle of being triggered into participating in giving away our energy to systems and ideas that don't serve us. So how about we stop doing that? Stop engaging in echo chambers and arguments and instead start working towards solutions. We've been duped into believeing that an act of self branding is a form of activism. I see it everywhere and it's just another way for you to pour your energy into something that will never bare fruit. Take your power back. Watch what you say and be mindful of why you are saying it. So much malice is often hidden behind the words of “I'm just being honest.”. Keep your mouth out of other people's lives and business but keep your heart in their growth and their light. You are here to play in the boundaries of your own soul and bring that special frequency to the planet. You are not here to emulate or immitate anyone else's. Your wonder is yours. Your beauty is yours. Your laughter is yours.

 

 

So what does this look like on a day to day basis? I'ts easy to ponder these ideas but how can we apply them in a practical manner to our day to day lives? My answer is to start by becoming fully invested in your joy. Ask yourself the big questions. Ask yourself introspective questions. Find out what your priorities are for you. What do you need not just to function but to thrive? What do you want? What did you want to be when you grew up? What advice would you give to your 15 year old self? When you stand alone, who are you? Find a way of making money that doesn't cost you your dignity. If you choose to be coupled with another human being at least make sure it's a union that lifts you up. Your friendships should bring you clarity not confusion. Take consistent but small steps towards the things that matter for you. There is no quick fix, its a long process but that doesn't mean it isn't a fun one. Strip yourself layer by layer of everything that's expected of you and remind yourself of what you expect of yourself. Remind yourself that you had an idea about what your life could be, revisit that and see what precious gems it holds.

 

 

Have a great week,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Choose your superpower.

 

Hello loves,

 

 

I haven't written a blog in a few weeks. I've just been taking the time to realign my energy and put myself back in sync. I've not been down or depressed or anything and I'm not depleted either but, I also have no desire to be in that state so I gave myself a few weeks off writing. I'm back to it now and am starting to feel a bit more energised. I've been doing a 100 day challenge all based in self care and appropriate routines recently which has helped me to keep a more watchful eye on how I treat myself. A big part of this current challenge has centred me around intuitive thinking and action whilst also holding myself to account through journalling. I do most of these things anyway but during a challenge like this I always try to stick more rigidly to the themes I have chosen. So, with self care at the top of the pyramid for this 100 days when I need time to look after myself I have to do it. There are times when self care slips away from us and we have to knuckle down to get a job done. I think this is fine so long as it doesn't become a way of life. Looking after the light that you are is a great set point for your life and creating habits that keep you turned in that direction will help you to feel more clear.

 

 

Habits are your superpower, choose them wisely. A study said that it takes 21 days for most human beings to create a new habit which is something that's never really worked for me. Anything I've done for 21 days has never stuck, for me it making it into a 100 day challenge not only creates the habit but also tests it against the rhythm of your life. We can all make room for a 21 day challenge or new habit but making it last for 3 months seems to hold it up against the lumps and bumps of your life. You will fall off the wagon, your self care routine, your intuition might need you to stop what you are doing for a while. There may be a very good reason for you not to be doing something right now. I've done writing challenges, music challenges, art ones too and the month long ones tend to be fun. Sometimes I've had great success, sometimes something has happened in my life which has knocked me off my routine and done it with a very good reason. Once done, I check in with myself and my intuition to see if it's O.K for me to start again.

 

 

We all have habits. The problem is that so many of us have habits that go directly against the things we are reaching for. Sometimes habits of thought are so focussed on work that we can't enjoy time off. Sometimes habits of eating, exercize, identifying with illness, chaos, we've gotten used to so much, so often that it goes unnoticed. Until we are ready for something better. Recognising you have a bad habit is actually a good thing because it's a sign that your energy has outgrown it. Now all you need to do is choose something better. Try your own 100 day challenge and choose something to do every day, an affirmation, a creative hobby, a meditation practice, a healthy eating plan. Try it out and see what helps you. You may not do it for a few days, you may drop in and out but the more you try to stick to it the more you are likely to sit there in 3 months time with a new addition to your lifestyle. Why not try a 100 day challenge based around positive thinking? Find the best part of your day and journal about it before bed. It's helped me a lot in the past and I return to it often. Your habits are shaping your life whether you want them to or not, so, as a gift to yourself, examine them and make them work for you!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The power we often overlook.

 

The galloping breeze washed over my body as the heat lay thick in the air. The dull ache in my arms and chest from sweating, being uncomfortable and not sleeping seemed to have it's own rhythm and each beat of that drum tired me even more. It's safe to say I am not equipped for the heat. Still there is work to do, spirits to connect with, stories to write, paintings to paint so I pull my body upright and decide to go for a coffee. Fatigue lead me to a mopey, feeling sorry for myself kind of place that is so stupid it's hilarious. The jolt as I drink the coffee is the only welcome warm I feel and as I walk back home something in the sky catches my eye. A white feather flew directly into my palm. I can't help but have a small giggle to myself and I snap out my little funk immediately. The sky seems a little brighter, the clouds a little more playful and the excitable momentum is back in my belly. My shoulders broaden, my neck relaxes and practically waltz back home to get my day officially under way. When you practice a good feeling space daily, it seems like the Universe will fall over itself to keep you there.

 

 

I remember when I first really understood that I could choose how I felt about anything. That no matter what was happening around me I had the power, through pure choice to find the best part of that experience and stay there. If what was happening was too much then I also had the power to use my imagination to take me somewhere else completely. My mind has always been a creative playground but, using it in this way was a light bulb moment. The more I used my mind to help me stay in a good feeling space the more good feeling things kept turning up in my life. That's not to say that I don't have challenges, or that some days I still don't wake up feeling like crap for no reason but, during those days I follow my mind to the best feeling place I can get to and I do my best to stay there. This keeps me relatively clear and focussed plus, with a few lists in there I stay productive too! Now that this retrograde has hit and hit many of us hard it's a great time to remember the power you have to make the best of what's happening. As this deep cleanse hits our minds remember that it is still your mind.

 

 

I've noticed old hurts, old regrets, flashes of old habits have been leaking into my experience so now more than ever I stick to my routine. I have put reminders into my daily schedule to make sure that I stay as “woke” as I can be to the power inside all of us. I also like to make use of retrogrades as a way to upgrade my self care. With all that “inner” cleaning happening why not give it a helping hand?! Remember that the chaos of a retrograde only really engages in a destructive way when you fight against it. It's a natural reaction to reach for what's being taken from you but, some things are worth losing. Just breathe and let go. Breathe and let go. What you focus on you bring the energetic equivalent of it into your experience. So if during this time some uncomfortable things turn up, and it's likely that they will, acknowledge them for the teachers that they are but understand that they are passing through. Say hi, but keep on going and remember, you have the power to change the energy within your own body, always.

 

 

Have a great week,

 

Big love,

 

Ryan James x

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Get yourself ready.

 

Hello loves,

 

 

In the next ten days a mercury retrograde comes back into our lives and we sink head first into another healing phaze. Now at the end of this week I will be officially on holidays so I wont be able to guide you for the first part but as we all know by now retrogrades are phazes of deep healing. They bring to the surface anything that needs resolving or sometimes it just empties out what is no longer necessary and for some reason, we seem to be more energetically aware of the cleansing in this period. With this in mind I think some prep time is a good idea to get everything in place ready to be emptied and maybe even begin that process a little early so that we can sail through it a little easier. Now because of the emptying out process communication is always interrupted during these times and our capacity to make sense of our own thoughts is a little slowed. Don't panic, NOW is the time to make a start on any improvements to your meditation routine. I like to do my meditation straight after morning yoga but recently Stu has taken up meditating and is putting me to shame! I swear he does it 3 times a day now. Whenever he feels slightly out of balance he chucks his headphones on, listens to some soothing music for 15 minutes and gets centred again! So I think I may commit to an evening meditation too. The more silent my mind is the clearer the platform is for the Universe to work through me.

 

 

Improve your grounding, which for me means exercize. Anything that takes you out of your head and into the space of your body. Yoga, walking, dance, love making, tai chi, whatever gets you into the space of experiencing your physical body. I actually love cardio. I put some music on, slip into a dreamstate and 40 minutes later I'm sweating from my knees amd picking my lungs up off the crosstrainer...and I love it. My job is cerebral, my hobbies are creative and my downtime is basically reading books or playing in sketchbooks so the more crazy and intense my grounding routine the better. I used to love the gym and I still might go back at some point, if I can find the right space with the right trainer but for the next few weeks I'm looking at improving my grounding by adding weights to my routine and also adding more yoga. What small action could you take to improve your grounding? Remember when it comes to this stuff that I find it best to find something that you can do daily in the space of 20 minutes and then let it build from there.

 

 

The third part of my preparation is connection, which is basically improving community and working on creative projects that make me laugh or excite me. Being more open, saying “yes” more and using my downtime to lift me is something that I find helps keep me in a space of growth. As mercury retrograde clears everything out having people to talk to, reflect with and something that makes you giggle I think is invaluable. Now I know that I do have the capacity to lock myself away in my home and it's easy to get too tired to meet up with friends but a concerted effort to ensure that happens more would be perfect. On top of that I've been playing with the idea of making a small comic strip for a while and I always smile when I think of it so now might be a good time to dig in. Its nothing more really than an extension of my visual diary but it's a fun project that is not work related so why not! Do you have a project, a book, an artistic skill, a musical idea, a craft idea, anything that makes you smile at the thought of it? Now is the time to start actively playing with it. Prepare your energy for the cleansing so that once it's done you can raise yourself higher and go further and dig deeper than you would have been able to before.

 

 

How can you improve your meditation practice?

 

How can you improve your grounding practice?

 

How can you make more room for connection?

 

 

Have a great week!

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Turn your dream into a plan.

 

The heat laid itself heavy in the air of my bedroom this morning and as I got up I felt like I was walking through treacle. It seems no matter how many showers you take during this heat within seconds you are back to being sticky! You'd have thought my greek blood would have kicked in but no, I melt and become completely inactive. I've always been more of a winter or an autumn person. I love nothing more than curling up next to a fire as the bitter winds and listening to the rain lashing down on the streets outside. Candles during dark days and incense in a quiet house is perfect for me. Still, this heavy heat lends itself to kind of a perfect Sunday. I spend most of my Sundays planning, writing, organising and getting everything ready for the week ahead. I have a bullet journal, an ordinary journal and I spend time in meditation looking at the kinds of energies that are creating themselves in the week ahead. Even though I'm not always the best at reading for myself I do pick up energy shifts and I can feel a few that are manifesting for me. I'm not sure of what they are yet but I definitely feel like some room is being made in my life for something and I'm excited to see what it is.

 

 

I think planning your week ahead is the best thing to do to ensure that you make time for the things you want to do and the self care that keeps you centred. I put everything on my list and try to put it in the order I think I am going to be able to do it in. Everything from morning routines, cardio, of course my business obligations, my creative business and I also do what I can to schedule hobbies and down time. If it goes on my list I aim to do it. I also have an addendum on my list that states that I am allowed to throw the whole thing away, change everything if I need to if my self care demands it. I know that I have that freedom and I really don't take it for granted. I don't have children or a large family that's predominantly in my life so I get to relax when I choose and I'm careful to try and not sound like I am making these statements on a whim. This is just what works for me. I think that a dream stays a dream until it has a plan. My dreams right now include making as much art as I can fit in around my schedule and recommitting to my writing. The art is working out well, the writing not so much. I feel like I am working up the headspace of getting my books done but something is not quite in sync yet. Maybe that's the thing that I am making room for, inspiration?

 

 

If you are like me, getting something down on paper makes it more real. I can look at it objectively and make small changes where I need to. This is why I journal. Once my thoughts are in front of me I can sometimes see more clearly what I am thinking. That's why my Sundays are so important for me, I need that time with my thoughts. I know not all of you get a whole day, but sometimes an hour to sit and write, create, doodle and PLAN can be enough to get your energy engaged with the Universe in a whole new way. Sometimes I just write lists of my ideas, sometimes I write lists of places that I want to visit, things I want to do with Stu and once it's written I can gage how much I actually want to do it and my rule of thumbs is that if I love it then I have to move towards it. At the end of each day I also take some time with a cuppa to review my lists, to see what I got done, to see where I was maybe pushing myself too far and to maybe see where I wasn't pushing myself hard enough. Sometimes the Universe helps you by giving you a kick up the bum, sometimes it helps you by stopping you in your tracks either way turning one of your dreams into a plan is a wonderful way to engage. Try it for 3 months and see if it helps.

 

 

Have a great week,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Add this to your day.

 

Written into everything we are is the language of our soul. It isn't verbal and yet it is also in every word we speak. Intuition is often written off as something small and insignificant right up until the moment it can save your life or recreate it. I do have a pretty good sense of intuition and I think it has helped me out in a lot of cases. It still happens these days where I muddle the difference between my intuitive voice and my brain chatter and no matter how skilled you get at listening you will always have to work alongside the narrative based language of the ego. There are intuition workshops, videos, books and courses, pretty much everything you need to learn how to know what you already know. I know, it sounds heavy right? What if it didn't have to be? What if, instead of putting so much weight on your shoulders to “find” your intuitive voice you just put that to one side for a moment and instead learned to listen to your excitement? Yes, it can be that easy. Your excitement is the beginning place of opportunity within your own mind. It is there that you are willing to play again like you did when you were a child and it is there, in that space of opportunity where intuition can be more easily and readily accessed.

 

 

When we are excited about something our intuition naturally surges. It is almost the feeling place of where the intuitive voice and brain chatter meet. I've recommitted a lot lately to meditation and yoga practices and whilst they really do help I am starting to feel like there is an extra component to my practice that needs working on. It's excitement. So what excites me right now? What tickles my fancy? Well, the idea of finishing my books, the idea of creating more art, music, connecting in a more uplifting way with you, travel, adventures with Stu, meeting new people and making new friends and being an uplifter. These are the thoughts and ideas right now that when I hang around them a little, I connect to being excited. It's going to be fun to see how this practice impacts my life and I shall be tracking it over the next 100 days. Yes, I am doing another 100 day challenge! For no other reason than to play with the Universe and maybe refine some of my practices and thoughts I feel called to create something within myself again. To uplift my energy to a new place and it's going to be interesting to see what that new energy will call towards me.

 

 

So the question now becomes what excites you? Try and find ideas that keep you in a place of feeling eager. If you love thinking of holidays but get bogged down with the practicalities of finances then that's not the thought for you. What can you think about or engage with that naturally makes you feel excitable? It may be that you haven't felt that for years, it may be that you haven't given yourself anything to look forward to in a while and you actually have to do anything right this minute other than find a thought that feels good. Find a thought that makes you smile. Properly smile ( and also, don't feel guilty if that thought isn't your kids, we all know you love them but we also all know they can be little buggers! ). Think of something completely for you. Just for you. Once you hang around that space enough the energy will kick in and as soon as it does your intuition will engage in a more pragmatic way and start working with you. Think of excitement as a little bit of a hearing aid for intuition. It's a lens through which you can hear yourself better. You don't have to do it for 100 days, but try if for a month and see if it helps! It's already helping me!

 

 

Have a great week,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Been feeling a little aimless? Here's why.

 

Hello loves,

 

 

I totally get it. You get up, run through your morning routine, get the family ready and before you know it you're either in work running around or up to your eyeballs in house work. This is pretty much a regular day with me at the moment and even though I love my what I do and what I have that doesn't mean the routine of it doesn't sometimes get a little boring. There were times in my past when I was stuck in jobs working for other people when boriing became a way of being on the never ending tread mill of my daily life. I find a wonderful security in routine but I am fully aware that there is also the risk of falling into a “groundhog day” situation. With all the transitional energy in the air at the moment actively helping us out we might as well make use of it to add the bit of flavour to our day that some of you might need. Yes, if you've been feeling uncomfortable in work recently that's because purpose based energy has been receiving a call to upgrade itself. So if you've been finding yourself feeling a little lustless or aimless even in the middle of all of this wonderful weather then be glad to know you've done nothing wrong. You're just getting an invitation. The question is, are you going to accept it?

 

 

If the answer is yes, and I would imagine if you are reading this blog then that's probably the case then I do have some good news. The only real task you have right now is to work within your own mind to find your favourite thing about what you are doing and mentally/energetically hang around there. What is your favourite thing about nursing? About teaching? About business studies? About property development? Really find an emotional connection to the most favourite thing about your job and then use that as a mantra. If there really is nothing about your job that you like then the favourite thing might be the ability it gives you to provide for yourself. If you are looking for work then your favourite thing about the search might be the opportunities you are reaching for, or the room it gives you to land on something that you really love. Either way, there will be something that you prefer in the middle of what you have and the more you hang around that energy the more that energy can expand and attract more of itself. That one little nugget of light might be the key you need to elevate yourself to somewhere new or at the very least help you create a version of your job that you can fall even more in love with.

 

 

My favourite part of my job is when I am in the middle of a reading and I get to witness a light that goes on your eyes. It truly is a transcendant moment. If a client is open and receptive to the process a reading can carry a transformative momentum that carries us both to a greater awareness of the present moment. I love to witness the Universe working through me. I am a vessel in that moment for the light that you have called through me and the good news is that you don't to be a medium to do that. You can call light into any situation at any time. You have the ability to find the best aspect of where you are and hang around there enough that the momentum of the Universe catches it and launches you into a new, brighter version of yourself. The energy is ripe for transition at the moment and will be for about 6 weeks so USE THIS ENERGY. Emulate through your own mind the life you want to live and draw on the best bits of what you have available to you to create a recipie for what's coming. Find your favourite piece of everything that's around you and claim it, state it and speak it if you can. You have the light already and it's asking you to use it.

 

 

Have a great week,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Another new beginning.

 

I've started this week feeling better, more rested and more rooted in who I am. It's strange how something so small threw me off my centre so quickly and after a lot of sleep, chocolate and art I am glad to report that I am quietly healing whilst allowing the energetic root of the situation to unravel. For those that don't know I was asked to remove my art from a local cafe because of it's “occult symbolism”. I won't go into the mechanics of it all because I feel like I did that in my facebook post/mailing list and to do it now just picks at something that, if I'm honest, is still a little sore. I'm O.K though. The cafe that was displaying my art has apologized and I accept the apology in the spirit with which it was given. This week Stu has also been off work because he's poorly so that's been a real reminder of what's important. Family, in all it's definitions. The other added blessing in this experience was knowing just how far my reach has been over the years and just how many of you have stepped forward to share love with me when my feelings were hurt. The validation of my art, the willingness to ready yourselves and stand with me has really let me know that all of the love I have been trying to put out there over the years is sewn into the very corners of my life. Honestly your words, your messages and those of you who stopped me in the street for a quick hug are golden in my life. Golden.

 

 

I cannot write this experience off as a negative one though. I'm not even sure if I believe in the whole positive and negative thing any more. It feels too binary to apply to the universal tapestry we live in. I have truly felt the hand of the Universe in all of this and I can see why I was intuitively called to put my work there in the first place. I'm also not entirely sure it's done, even though I am actively trying to put the whole thing behind me I still have to remind myself every now and again that God is a verb, to treat compassion like a verb and to be as kind as I can be whilst still asserting appropriate boundaries. You have to love people where they live and read the intentions behind the words. That can only really be done when you are willing to self reflect and hold yourself accountable to the energy you put out there into the world. I truly believe that the world reflects back to us what we think about ourselves. We live the sum of who we are and whilst my intention was just to share my art with the world it is also now clear that my old survival skill of “going under the radar” is still present in my energy. I've spoken to you all before about that part of my experience, that learning to live as a gay person in a hostile environment meant I had to learn to be invisible. That is why whenever I put something out there there is still, to this day, a knee jerk response in me as to whether or not I should. It's tribal, root chakra stuff.

 

 

I deserve to be seen. I am worthy. I am loving. I am the lens through which wonder exacts itself in my life. The only way to change the direction of my energy is to choose a new direction. So, instead of hiding away under the guise of “healing” I have to directly challenge the space I am going to. So this week I have set myself a small challenge of finding other places to display my art and contact them. So many of you have already given me some wonderful leads and I shall follow them up and I am also considering starting some sort of art group/collective. I know the old energy will still exact itself, you can't stop a ripple in a pond dead in it's tracks but you can throw a bigger stone in and watch as it over rides the whole thing!

 

 

I love a brand new beginning!

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The healing of men.

 

I always hesitate before tackling a subject like this. I tend not to write blogs that are more than three paragraphs long and I fear I can't do the subject justice but then I don't think there is ever a truly succinct way to talk about something that is this dark or taboo. Today I want to talk about the epidemic of suicide. Particularly in our men. I've been doing this job for about 20 years now and it is becoming an increasingly prominent cause of death. It is now rarely a week that goes by when I am not connecting for someone who has lost a man in their life by his own hands. Sometimes drugs are the root of it, sometimes it's mental health, sometimes there are circumstances in peoples lives that are so dark I can't imagine not contemplating leaving. I see the underbelly of our culture a lot in my work and I can only marvel at how some people pull through. We live in an increasingly isolating culture with increasing amounts of pressure on our young people and sometimes when the momentum of youth subsides we are left with an ingrained trauma that we can't quite language. Back when we were more rooted in our sense of family and tribe we had people to turn to, now we seem to solely take ourselves to the doctors for a pill. I'm not saying that is not an important and healthy step for some but it is never the complete answer.

 

 

I love watching as we culturally learn to language not only mental health but mental well being. I see kids these days talking openly about anxiety, depression, pressure and the need to be your authentic self and I love the direction we are going in but at the same time I don't see the culture we are living in catching up with the openness of the young. I really do hope that one day we will get there but for the time being we still have some serious work to do. It is sadly a rare thing for a man who is suffering in this way to reach out, our culture has given men a pathalogical fear of failure and admitting that you are not coping often feels like you are admitting defeat. I know that there are many suicide hotlines, samaritans, charities that are set up to help and that's wonderful but the issue is getting from point A to point B. Making yourself available to listen is one thing, reaching out and being willing to pull someone out of their dark space, or just sit there with them and offer whatever comfort you can is another. What has struck me is just how shocked so many people are at the kinds of men who have taken their lives. It's so often the men we consider the “life and soul” of the party. It's the happy go lucky man. It's the loving father. It's the supportive best friend. These men have so often carefully, clinically constructed a persona that can let others believe that they are doing O.K even if the opposite is true. I understand it. I've done it myself. In those times all you want is for someone to reach past what you present to the world and let you know that they see you. 

 

 

The way to tackle this issue is to do exactly this. Read up on it. Talk about it. Normalize it. Reach out to ALL of your friends and check in on them. Not just the friends who fit the stereotype of someone struggling, just reach out to ALL of them. Don't just let them know that you are there, go the extra mile, be an investigator. Be a detective. Dig in and ask questions. Follow your gut and if something feels “off” with someone then trust in that. I truly do believe in the power of community and the more that we learn to connect the more we can tackle this issue. We do also need to display our own vulnerability when dealing with this. I've spoken many times in this blog about my history and connection to depression and mental well being issues. It has taken a lot of work for me to get to where I am but even I still need constant reminders to put self care first. I understand this journey, as you can imagine I had a very strange time growing up hearing voices and just seeing the world differently. Back then I didn't know how to ask for help and we weren't culturally versed in offering it. This is why I think it's important for us at this cultural crisis point to not just learn how to be there when someone reaches out but to be brave enough to reach in.

 

 

We can only do what we can do.

 

 

We can only start when we are ready to show up.

I'm here.

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The gift you already have.

 

Oscar plonks himself down in front of the telly, or right next to me if I'm painting and just stares... and stares... and stares. I swear I can feel his gaze burning into the back of my head. He has the focus of an elite athlete and I swear once hes decided he will NOT budge until I take him out for his walk. To be honest I don't mind ( most of the time ). My wanders with Oscar are a great time for me to catch up on my day dreaming. It's the same as when I do cardio. I put my head phones in and off I go into a little dream world. Sometimes if I'm walking through the parks I like a listen to the trees but mainly I am “off planet” or as my mum says “in my bubble “. Imagination is one of the most powerful gifts we have as spirits inhabiting bodies. It is a direct link to the potential of your being. Ok so I know that most of the stuff that us day dreamers actually day dream about will never really happen but the energetic equivalent of them can. Yes, we all know that what we focus on we draw to us. Sometimes that works in a very literal sense and sometimes we attract what's on a level with that. It depends on how you use it really. To it's equivalent or better, that's how it's always worked for me.

 

 

Sometimes the imagination is used for escape, to visualise or to explore the parts of our mind that we somehow feel are off limits to our physical lives. I encourage you to use it for whatever you feel you need it for at the time but I also encourage you to be aware of it too. If you are spending hour after hour running over the shoulda, coulda, woulda's with your ex then you are calling out for their energy or something similar to it. I'm not saying if you spend half an hour thinking about them then expect a call but what I am saying is that we live in an attraction based Universe and that which is like unto itself is drawn. One of the many things I love about day dreaming and the imagination is that it's such a perfect platform for the intuition and also spirits to connect with you. Creativity and psychic energy are bedfellows. I personally don't think you can engage one without the other. When I used to run classes one of the tools I use to help people connect with their intuition was creativity and I wanted to offer that out to you today. If you don't have one already, get a sketchbook and make a habit of doing some drawing in it. You dont have to be a good artist, or even a good drawer, the point is to engage with your creativity and not only see where it takes you but to also see what new literacy it offers you about your life.

 

 

I also think that the more you engage with your imagination the better you will get at visualisation which is, basically imagining on purpose. The benefits of visualisation are well documented, it actively opens doors to helping you create and call for the things you want. The good thing about all of this is that imagination is something we all have, it's something we are all born with and the more we use it the more it can benefit our lives. I have never understood people who fear imagination. If you can't play within the boundaries of your own mind how are you ever going to find and create joy as an adult? I've learned that a big part of being a grown up is learning which parts of you to intentionally keep child-like. Imagination is the open door to your connection with joy, the spirits around you and your intuition, what's to fear about that? Now, go play!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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What to do when you feel stuck.

 

Being self employed I have a lot of benefits and autonomy within my working day. There are so many positives to the lifestyle I've incrementally created over the last 20 years ( yes 20 YEARS!!! ). Of course there are some not so great bits, each job has it's down side like no sick pay and no guarantee of actual work but all in all I have a great working life. I love what I do and it's an interesting a great job to have. I know this is not the case for many others. Some people are trapped in jobs that they dont love, some love their jobs but the job still comes with a huge demand on their time and of course I understand the frustration of finding work too. Your relationship to your job is not unlike any other relationship in your life. It needs maintaining, regulating and of course enforced, respectful boundaries. I have done jobs that I've hated and I've just not lasted there that long. It would be easy for me to say “just quit!”, and in the past that's what I did. If I didn't like where I was I would move onto the next thing but back then I had the momentum of youth and no one being financially dependent on me. It's a little easier and less frightening to job-hop when you're younger. Me and Stu were talking about opportunities yesterday and we both had the same thought that you don't realize how youth focused our culture is until you're not considered “young” any more.

 

 

I have definitely felt the impact of this. To me it felt like waking up one day and finding all the opportunities that were laid out in front of you were just gone and my knee jerk reaction to that was to strive to fight for them. It took me a while to understand that I didn't even want the opportunities that were being offered. I think my knee jerk reaction was to the idea that I had a loss of freedom. It's a whole amalgam of cultural ageism and gender narrative. It feels like the world puts you on a pedestal in your youth and then quickly, without reason, knocks you off. It can be written off as a necessary step toward adulthood and ownership but I still wrestle with the idea of freedom and opportunities. In a culture that seems obsessed with only talking about youth and what's new where do we leave room for people who are making new starts? I have spoken to so many people who are trapped in a prison of their own making. So many who haven't given themselves the permission slip to actually make the changes that need to be made. A big part of my work and the work that is done through me is helping people rediscover their power and your power always lies in your capacity to choose.

 

 

I'm not one for huge radical immediate change. I like it all to happen slowly, thoroughly and for those of you who are stuck in any job situation I don't recommend that you suddenly drop everything and run! I do recommend that you make a start, firstly within your own mind to really rediscover who you are now and where you want to be. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life and the opportunities I want I work towards slowly and carefully. I've learned to leave room to try new things and to also make time to do the things that I already know I love. I want you to know that you are never really “stuck”, even though it might feel like it. You have the power to call on the whole Universe to come meet you where you live and it has the power to transform everything. Make your wish and then make your wish happen. You are your own aladdins lamp. You are your own fairy godmother. I am not talking about idle wishing here, I am talking about definition. Define what it is you want and where you want to be and then yes, throw it out to the Universe and ask for it but also ask for it by making a plan and working towards it. The most important job you have is to create an open relationship between you and your soul. You already have everything you need to start there.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Have a good week!

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Making it work for you.

 

I would wake up and my first thought of the day would be sadness. All related to the break up of course. It's those horrible moments that catch you off guard when something reminds you of them or when something exciting happens and you want to share it with them and then you remember, that it's over. Heartache is a dead weight and one that filters into every art of your life. Even though that pain was long ago I never lose empathy for who I was back then and those in a similar situation now. The pain and the anger display themselves differently in each person but the deeper I went into the hurt the more desperate I became to find ways to escape it. The easiest way I found to avoid the pain was anger. I got so good at being angry that it was the background noise for my life. I made everything “his fault” and by doing so, unknowingly at the time, turned myself into a victim within the situation. And that's where I stayed for years. When I look back at all my art, my writing, my lyrics, my diaries from that time I notice that the rage I felt then was so overt and also so normalised. It may places and in many social circles I was applauded for my victim status and often attracted a crowd. But then I started to look at life, I grew up a little, I started to see love in the world again and I remembered that I have a soul.

 

 

When you approach life through the lens of a victim you see everything as happening TO you. You put yourself in the position of a helpless pawn being battered by life and always somehow coming off worse. When you approach life through the lens of your soul you see yourself as a collaborator of your experience and you put yourself in a position to learn. There is no need to demonise those that hurt you, even if they are doing a pretty good “demon” impression. At the end of the day they have a soul too. A major step in moving me out of my victimhood and into a space of ownership was learning to forgive the person that hurt me and of course taking the time to forgive myself. People are attracted to you for a reason, they are repelled from you for a reason too. It's easy to slip back into blame and guilt when doing this work but both of them are expressions of victimhood. Instead of blame just take responsibility, instead of being guilty, absorb the lesson and use it to transform you into a better version of yourself.

 

 

When your heart is broken it will hurt. Let it hurt. Sit in the pain until is passes because IT WILL PASS. You will see the other side of it. If you don't go through the pain, cry the tears, learn the lessons then you are just going to repeat the same pattern over and over again. If you find that your love life seems to in a groundhog day sequel then start to unravel it by asking yourself, “Which pain haven't I healed?”. It will take time. It took me years. It did though eventually lead me down a path to where I fell so deeply in love with who I am and with life around me that I can do nothing but watch how the Universe falls over itself to rise to meet that energy. We all have the capacity to be a victim to the world and it's a glamourous invitation to do so but, what it invites into your life as a result is never really worth the pay off. Taking ownership of your life, your energy, your own heart is tough. There's a reason people avoid it! But when you do it you won't just see the world around you, you'll see into it and of course further into you. Knowing that you create your life frm the inside out and living that truth are two seperate things and I advise in the beginning taking it slowly. Forgive everyone for everything and know that no matter what pain you are sitting in you get the choice to turn that pain into the fuel that transforms you forever.

 

 

Big Love,

 

Ryan James x

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Making miracles happen.

 

Hello loves!

 

 

If there's something I want you to keep in mind this week it's that the world around you is magic. There really is a miracle waiting for you just around the corner, and by around the corner I mean in your very hands. The power of our spirits is never lost on me. One of the benefits of my job is that I get to see just how incredible people can be. The strength, the capacity to endure and most importantly the capacity to transform. We really all do have what we need right here with us. Our intuition guides us to the right information. The Universe lines up people that we need to connect with. Law of attraction brings you to the energetic equivalent of your own energy. The sum of who you are is what is in front of you. If you want your life to change, YOU have to change first. I guess this is where most people run into the first hurdle. More often than not we like who we are, we have gotten used to thinking what we think, feeling what we feel and doing what we do. That's why when we ask for a miracle or a little bit of magic it has a harder time showing up because we don't then step into our own wish. It's like asking to swim and then not jumping into the pool.

 

 

Whenever I feel guided towards creating something new in my life I always begin with affirmations. These are not prayers or wishes. These are carefully selected sentences that embody the energy of what I am creating. Once I have identified what it is that I want I then go about constructing the thoughts, ideas, energies and belief systems of a person who would already have what I am asking for. I see it almost like an acting role at first. It's not about lying, it's about finding and using your imagination to engage with the Universe. If your goal is to achieve job satisfaction then take some time to really think and digest what someone who already has that would be thinking. If you loved your work what would you feel? What thoughts would you have? How would it change how you treated yourself? How would it change how you treat others? Journal, contemplate, have a really good dig into the thoughts and ideas behind the personality that can create what you want. If you know of someone who is already doing what it is that you want to do study them. Really get into the mindset of someone who already has what you want and then comes the tricky bit...staying there.

 

 

Yes, we do live the sum of our energy but we also live the echo of who we used to be. The energy you are living right now is born of many patterns that you picked up years ago and let's be honest, most of them are wonderful. You learned to love unconditionally, care with all you have and you also learned to take care of your basic needs. You're not doing too badly! All of this Universal language stuff is just fine tuning. It's the icing on the cake. Sometimes though we also learn some stuff that isn't working. We sometimes have learned to take care of others at the expense of ourselves or, to not treat our bodies kindly or, to be scared of change. Imagine a courageous version of yourself. Imagine a successful version of yourself. Imagine a creative version of yourself. Imagine a married/in love/romantic version of yourself. Fill in the blank of whatever it is that you are trying to create and dont just work towards creating it, work towards becoming the person who already has it. THAT is the little nugget of magic that so often get's over looked. You really do have everything you need right there with you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Time for pause.

 

And the retrograde is over! Besides a few days of residual effects everything shall return to it's normal soon enough. So what did we learn this time around? What did you let go of? What did you learn to welcome? As the mental confusion lifts a better amount of clarity will come to the surface along with a desire to figure it all out. I felt this retrograde deeply. I know that I go on about them but I figured out years ago that these particular planetary shifts seem to have a big effect on me and unsurprisingly also affecting those who are on a similar path. This week is all about journalling for me and figuring out what has shifted. I know on a deep level I am different. Like a jig saw that has been pulled apart and put back together again, only I feel like I've been put back together with a few extra pieces in there somewhere. The shifts have been subtle but I know that's only the beginning. This is now the fun part of what retrograde brings, the cleansing is over and now it's time to see what grows in it's place. What's true is that nothing will be quite the same for any of us.

 

 

I plan to recommit to my yoga practice and journalling practice over the next few weeks to ensure that my mental well being is taken care of. I know that there is a lot of talk in our culture right now about mental health and I advise that you listen to every little bit of it. Mental health, like physical health is something that needs to be cultivated. You can't just go to the gym once and expect to lose 3 stone. The same as you can't do self care once a month and expect to feel amazing. You have to do a little bit every day. Some of you who suffer with mental illness have a tougher road to follow and the daily commitment to self care may be all you have some days. Either way, keep trying. If you didn't look after yourself too well today, start again tomorrow. All of us live busy lives and carving out time for yourself is becoming increasingly tough so why not boil it down to just dedicating yourself to making a start. What is the one thing you can do for your mental health? For me, right now, it's yoga. Just 15 to 20 minutes a day, at the end of my day helps me, so that's where I'm starting.

 

 

If I were to sit down and list all the things I'd like to do for my self care routine then I'd stress myself out in trying to do them. Kind of the opposite of what I'm trying to achieve right? So why not just choose one? Maybe for you it's running, maybe it's reading a book in a coffee shop on your lunch break, maybe it's going to bed earlier? Whatever it is choose something this week and follow through. You won't get it right every day, you may even miss a few days but like I said, you can always start again tomorrow. We've all just been through a big energetic shift and whilst I don't want to create drama around what's happened I also don't want to undermine the changes we have all just faced within ourselves, even if we can't label what they are at the moment. Right now, and I would say for the next month or so it's a good time to reflect. So much change is coming, politically, economically, culturally that we need to reaffirm our relationship to our sense of dignity and to where we stand within who we really are. The energy that we just passed through will manifest soon, so let's choose to focus on our growth.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Have a great week,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The sacred mother.

 

 

Every day my routine is the same. After my self care routine which ranges from morning yoga to seeing how much coffee I can get into my body I do the dutyful son bit and make sure I call my mum. If you follow my facebook feed then you'll know I always answer the phone “Hello, fat ass anonymous!”, to which my mum replies with an expletive. I also do this every time the house phone goes because my mum is the only one that calls me on the house phone. It's a joke between us although it was less funny that one time a police woman called to talk about local crime... anyway, the point is, I have a friendship with my mum as well as a mother son bond. She was incredible when I was growing up of creating an environment where I felt like I could be myself. Even on those few moments where I pushed the envelope like coming home with bleached hair, pierced, leaving the house house all dressed in black wearing a dog collar ( anyone remember my goth days? ). Then of course coming out of the closet, being a psychic and choosing to live a creative life I can honestly say that even though my mum didn't understand my choices ( neither did I half the time ) she always made me feel safe in the making of them. I am who I am because of the care of my mother.

 

 

The power of mothers is not lost on anyone. Long after we have become adults your mums voice stays with you. She is the guide to your morality and I believe that mothers have a lasting impact on a childs relationship to their own sense of dignity. You may grow beyond who your mother makes you but that part of your inner child will always be more defined than most. When it comes to mothering and motherhood ( which I don't define as exclusive to women ) it is so impactful that I am always surprised as to why we don't invest in deconstructing it. How your mother talks to you in always the first voice that you use to talk to yourself. Learning about that very intimate and delicate entanglement is working within you right now I think is essential to helping you create a richer life for yourself. Imagine you loved yourself as much as your mother does? Imagine making a study of you as much as your mother did/does? The strength of mothers and mothering is something that I personally believe can change the course of humanity but first lets make room within ourselves for that transformation and level of love to become dominant.

 

 

I don't want this blog to be just about how much I love my mum, even though it kind of is. I want you to really take some time and think about how that level of love, when given to the self can deeply impact your life and it's trajectory. It's a lot more difficult that we first expect. Firstly seperate the personality and history of yoru mum with the love that she brought to the table. How would that level of love impact your life today? How would you change? What would you protect yourself from? What would you give to yourself? When that love is turned inward firstly it can't help but radiate outwards. When you love yourself with the delicate and intent nature of a mother you root yourself so squarely in the space of love that you end up helping everyone around you. Take some time to think on this. Pamper you. Fall in love with you. Then, as you rise you will, in the space of love, take everyone willing to rise with you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Dealing with self doubt.

 

I love quiet mornings. Stu is fast asleep upstairs catching up on all the sleep that hes missed because of work recently and Oscar is curled up with me here by the heater. The house is losing it's morning chill and I am sat here having a natter with you guys. It's this wonderful intake of breath before the days starts. I can smell the rain outside and the streets are quiet. I love yawning into the day. I've always loved rainy days. When I was younger it was the perfect excuse for me to sit on my bed and draw or write without any of the adults around me nattering for me to go out and play. I havent' changed much. A good rainy day for me is still the same. Give me a sketchbook and a cuppa and I'm happy. With it being Easter I thought maybe I should write a blog about rebirth, fertility and renewal but most of you reading this have been amazing at making that a part of your life. I have watched so many of you turn your pain into power and taken the ashes of your life and rebuilt so many amazing things that I don't think you need too much guidance in that field. I think, seeing as we are all making our way through a pretty powerful retrograde that I'll keep on that theme.

 

 

So many of you have felt the power of this shift but in a really positive way. It really has been a reawakening and one that I myself have felt deeply. I was saying to my mother in law yesterday that I just can't seem to stop making and creating. I have this energy that really feels like I've had a light switched on inside my body. I am back to my cardio, back to daily creating, making music, daily writing, all of the pieces of my life that I have had a hard time juggling seem to have slotted into place. I think my main stumbling block has always been self doubt and I've been working on that for a long time and I'm not going to say that this retrograde has helped to take that away but it's definitely helped me to understand that it's something that will always be there. My self doubt always lead to self criticism which always lead to emotional and creative atrophy. Now, even if I hate what I'm making I still keep going. I acknowledge the voice in my head that is born of fear and I keep moving forward. The only two things that stop me are my intuition and any call I feel towards self care. I've learned more clearly than ever the distinction between doubt as a product of fear and an intuitive no.

 

 

Doubt is a part of everyone's life and it's something that I have had to work on for a long time. Its the million “I'm not sure's” that go unchecked when moving forward. It's O.K to have them, it's O.K to question but doubt is the part where you question so much that you actually stop moving forward. As I've said before the language of the Universe is fluid. When you MOVE the Universe reacts. If you go in a direction that is not for you then the Universe will provide a way out. You really are looked after at all times and in all places, you just have to learn to listen to the whispers. For me synchronicities or collaborations with me and the Universe happen every day. I always see numbers that are sacred to me ( 108, 1008, 11.11 ) and I always see white feathers. Yesterday a handful of white feathers blew over the car that me and Stu were in on the motorway towards his parents house! These are all little heads ups from the Universe that things are in alignment, that things are working out. The more you look for them, the more you see them and the more you push yourself out of questioning the intention of the world around you and into the active space of doing. Just keep moving. Action cures doubt so, no matter what direction just take a step!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

Have a great week ahead!

 

 

Big Love,

 

Ryan James x

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Just one thing!

 

The never ending treadmill of things to do is just a part of life these days. Nothing stops. As soon as one thing is over another begins. We live in a world where our attention is pulled in five different directions at once. You might even be catching yourself reading this whilst also doing something else. We've turned multi tasking into a way of life and as you can imagine, the human brain is just not designed to function in that capacity for too long. As a culture we are suffering more burn out, more depression and more apathy. What worries me is the tools we used to cultivate in ourselves to slow down just don't seem to be there in the younger generation or, if I'm honest, in our lives either. We don't seem to have the skill any more to make things simple. To reduce what we have to it's bare bones. So, that's what I want to try and conjure up both within myself this week and hopefully within you too. Mercury retrograde is all about a cleansing period so it's seems the perfect time to distill what it happening in my life down to it's nucleus. With that in mind, ask yourself the question, “What is the one thing that I could do that would have the best impact?”.

 

 

Sit with that question for a bit. Write lists if you're so inclined. Resisit the urge to put twenty things out there, literally just out one down. I am working on that question right now for my spiritual work and my creative work to help remind myself what is important. Like everyone else I get easily distracted and with lists longer than my life I always seem to find myself focused on the fiddly, crappy little bits rather than the things that will really help me serve myself and in turn serve the people in my life. What is the one thing I can focus on that will impact my life? Learning to slow things down, be more present, write the book that is in my heart to write, paint my journey, publish my books, there's so many ideas in my head it's just playing in that area energetically long enough to allow what's really important to myself to call me towards it. This is not the kind of exercise that can be done in a night, let this idea take you with it. What is the one thing that will impact your relationship? What is the one thing that will impact your career? Your home? Your well being? What is the one thing that will improve your life overall? Once you've answered that question for yourself then the next question is obvious, “What is the one step you can take today to move towards it?”.

 

 

I've said many times in many blogs that it's so easy to get lost in a big picture. My entire personal narritive is always rooted in big picture thinking ( right brained! ) so I know what a bugger it can be. Just doing what is infront of you is the best known cure for procrastination and confusion. Just moving your bum can be enough to help you engage with the Universe in a way that she can hear you and pull you in the direction that you need to go in. Don't worry about making a mistake, if you start to veer too far off course the Universe will send you signs. That sinking feeling in your gut is one of them. If you move in the direction that the Universe wants you to go in you'll be surprised at how many synchronicities and collaborations ( sometimes called coincidences ) show up. Spend some time making a decision by all means but once it's been made act upon it. If it's wrong you'll know soon enough. I am in this process myself so feel free to leave your thoughts and ideas below. What do you think is the one thing you need to improve/impact your life current trajectory?

 

 

Have a great week ahead!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Slowing things down.

 

 Over the last few months I have been making an active choice to go slow. Running my business is tiring. Doing what I do is tiring. Also with the 101 other activities that I refuse to give up on the side, my art, my music, my writing, it's so easy to slip into burnout. I figured out a long time ago that I am just a happier human being when I have a goal to work towards, no matter how small. It's also tricky to keep myself on the right path because I love being and feeling productive. I love ticking off a list or having lot's to do but it's just so easy to hit that place where I am wandering around like a machine feeling way too disconnected for my own liking. I know some of you feel or have felt like this and with us living in a society that exhaults work ethic above self care I think it's time we amended our habits. If I really out my mind to it I could probably do 10 readings in a day, in fact, that was normal for me in my 20's at one point. Of course the momentum and energy of my 20's helped, my readings were also shorter and less in depth and I would burn out roughly every 9 months. But, I could do it and I could probably do it now, excpet now I am too aware of what it would cost me to even attempt it.

 

 

Whilst evolving my business one of the first things I did was work out how many readings I could do a week to the best of my ability and still maintain a balance. It was about quality not quantity. The boundary for me is to create an environment where I can do my best work and nurture my soul at the same time. As I grow what I need changes. Recently I've stopped going out to people's houses to do readings, I've found that navigating the energies of people's homes is always a little too intense and I don't thrive. I know I could proably make more money if I did shows and entertainment and all that other stuff that mediums do but it's just never felt right for me. I prefer just sitting with people and connecting, the kind of work that I do is better suited for an intimite environment. Looking back on my business growth it seems that each time I take a step forward it actually helps me to slow the pace of which I do things down. I take my time. I savour the moments of my day. It helps me to be more present and more intuitively connected.

 

 

Bigger and better doesn't always mean busier. Being a success in any capacity doesn't mean having a million things to do each day. You can live the life you want and not kill yourself to get there. Actually slowing things down, taking the time to enjoy the pace of your day connects you more to your spirit. You hear your invitation more clearly. The more I impliment this into all areas of my life the more I just enjoy where I am and what I am doing. There is a “slow” movement happening in america which I read about recently which I loved the idea of but I'm just not sure how practical the whole thing is with the way I live my life. I'm not saying go find a tent and live a life without any concept of time ( I'm also not telling you not to ) but maybe it will help you to find spaces in your life to take things more slowly. To be more connected. Take time off your device and let your mind wander a bit. Take the pressure off yourself and move into a space where you are aware of where you are. See the room you are in. Connect to the people you are surrounded by, take your headphones out and listen to the world for a bit, it just might be saying something to you!

 

 

Thank you for reading!

 

 

Have a great week!

 

 

Big love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The myth of perfectionism.

 

  Like many other people I wore the label of perfectionist as a badge of honour. I claimed it as the reason I over worked, as the reason I rarely got anything finished and the reason I would get up at night to clean! Perfectionism is actually nothing more than a state of fear. Not only that, it is also often the excuse given to ourselves and others for acts of self violence. We all have standards, some of which we deem higher than others. And perfectionism is part of the chorus of voices from the ego that perpetuates the feeling of not being good enough. We push ourselves to exhaustion, we burn out, we neglect ourselves and our families, we passively aggressively lash out at those around us and we feel vilified in our judgments. Perfectionism excuses all of this and let's be clear, it would rather see you dead than flawed. The pathology of perfectionists is the desire to beat order out of chaos. Most have a deep need for control and when it can't be achieved internally then they will strive to pull their environment and the people within them to pieces in order to create a percieved harmony. Unfortunetly harmony is not part of the perfectionists modus operandi, sometimes they can achieve minute points of relief in the rare cases where they have achieved what they have set out to do but because perfectionism is fear then that quickly changes.

 

 

I liken perfectionism to a mild OCD except the compulsion is not to create the order of objects but the create a persona, an exagerated version of the life that they are living. Perfectionism is one of the few states of fear that is celebrated culturally because it demands that you give all of the power from your life over to the opinions and thoughts of others. Quite often the “perfection” that is sought is an ideal given to you from someone else. Dealing with perfectionism is not easy because of the celebrated aspects of it and to unwind it means that you will have to face whatever perfectionism is hiding. That can be tough if you have built a whole life from the outside in. I know when healing myself through this struggle or through parts of it, I make no bones that I was ever a dedicated perfectionist, that it took courage on my part to stop everything I was doing and sink into what that business was hiding. I think sometimes perfectionism is just swapping one form of chaos for another. What I found when I dived into what was lurking behind my behaviour and the illusion of control was, and always is, unresolved pain.

 

 

When I dealt with the pain behind the compulsion the compulsion withered. It's like the wizard of Oz, when you pull back the curtain and see what's there it's not scary any more. It isn't even that powerful. So much of our power is given away because we are afraid to look at ourselves but when we do look inward it actually gives us more. Knowledge isn't always power but it is always empowering. If any of what I have said today rings true, not just for perfectionists, but people who are control freaks, those who laugh at their inability to trust, acknowledge that what you are experiencing is fear. It's learned. It's probably as a result of some past trauma or aquired habit and more importantly, it can he healed. You don't have to walk around with that knot in your gut. You are worthy of a life that feels good. You are worthy of enjoying the moment. You are on this planet to collect memories and engage with other human beings, give yourself that priviledge by pulling back the curtain.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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What is compassion really?

 

Compassion is your pain in my heart and then out through my hands.”

  • Glennon Doyle

 

 

 

 

It's challenging to strike a balance between healing the world where it needs it and also holding others to their own responsibilities. In the microcosm of my life I often need to take a moment and check in with myself to see whether what I am doing is out of love or whether it is enabling someone. Too often my kindness has been taken advantage of. I have given my time, my resources to those who were just out for what they could get. Then there are those people in my life who really needed a helping hand and when I gave it, it was appreciated. It really takes practice to discern between the two but over the years I can say that I mostly get it right. Now and again one will slip under my radar or I'll find myself operating with an old habit system but on the most part I offer help not only where it is needed but also ( hopefully ) where it can be most impactful. I will also draw my energy away from people and or situations that feel like they are draining me. For me personally, one of the major steps I had to over come to even begin learning how to discern between energy snatchers and just those in help was to overcome the desire to be seen as being “nice” by others. Because people have very different ideas of what “nice” is and you'd be surprised how often “nice” reads “doormatt” in the minds of people who are after what you have.

 

 

Once you've stopped caring about how you are seen and you've checked yourself for victimhood and martyrdom then, you can start to emotionally engage with what is in front of you. Only when you are present can you figure out what someone is really after when they approach you. But how does this apply when we talk about bigger issues? How does energy awareness in the day to day of your life impact the political and social issues of our time? I personally think it's down to the clarity of your example. I know that it is a popular idea these days to consider marches as a form or protest but, I think that these marches have gone to a place where they are ineffective. At best they are an answer to a primal call to gather in times of threat. At worst they are an act of self branding for social media feeds. Quite simply they do not work. Gathering can work so long as compassionate dialogue is at it's core. If these protests became places where action plans were drawn up I think they could help more. I have yet to go on a march because I find them ineffective in our current climate. I protest with my money. I protest with my day to day actions. I spend in the direction of my own morality and I raise awareness as and when I feel it's appropriate.

 

 

As you all know I care about animal wellfare. I am vegan ( I say ish because there are a few definitions out there! ). I also vote in local elections and engage in conversations about subjects that I am passionate about. When I come across something that I feel is morally wrong, I speak up. I am not saying this to be self righteous and by no means do I get it right all the time but I do try. Things get past me. I sometimes open my mouth before my brain is engaged. I react. I am human. I do however try my best to look into ways I can personally evolve my sense of compassion. Which is not just about empathising with a situation but acknowledging a call to create change when it comes. We can't all fix the problems of the world on our own but, we can fix what is in front of us. We can design our lives in accordance with our morals. We can stand up to moral injustice in our political and economic structures not by standing on a street and screaming but by gathering in compassion and drawing up a strategic plan. Not a plan of attack or a vessel for revenge but something that will help hold us to our moral obligations. I think that can be useful when applied to our own lives and the world around us.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Finding the right psychic for you.

 

I know some people can find it a bit strange for a psychic to talk about the future not being written in stone. Surely I place my earnings in my ability to predict what's coming down the road right? Actually not so much. Even though psychics catch glimpses of people's futures what we are actually seeing is the most likely projection of the expansion of your energy. I do not interfere with free will. You have a choice at every single point in your life and it's up to you on a daily basis whether you take advantage of that or not. Being psychic really is nothing more than an ability to translate the information that we are all exposed to. It's just another sense that can pick up on what your energy is creating and what your soul is connected to at this current point. If you don't like what you are creating you have the ability to change that. Yes, some things will be harder to shift than others and I do think that there are some things that we have no control over happening. In those cases I focus on how that situation can be handled for the betterment of everyone involved.

 

 

The Universe is a fluid. Energy is not solid. It may appear to be and our understanding of it might be that but the truth is that everything around you shifts. You call what is like you to you through this Universe. It's law of attraction, like attracts like, newtons third law of motion. However you want to phraze it you have more control over what's happening than you know what to do with. I think it was Marianne Williamson who said that, “our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”. We all like the idea of control until it is put in our hands. It's something that we all have to navigate whilst in these bodies. When I read someone who understands these principals then they end to make more use of a reading. They ask different questions and are able to use me as not just a mirror for what they are creating but as an indicator of what needs to change within themselves so they can either make the most of it or change it entirely. Then of course there's the mediumship side of what I do, which is something different even though they do overlap during my readings. Having a loved one pop in to say hello, heal an old wound or just enjoying reconnecting with them temporarily is something I also love and is sacred to my practice.

 

 

Each psychic has a different gift. We all are sensitive to different kinds of information. Some are mediums, some are psychics, some are both, some are healers, some are energy sensitives and some are heightened intuitives. There are so many different types of gift and that's before we even get into how each psychic experiences them. My point is to be thorough when finding a psychic that works not just for you but who is in sync with your energy. I know that what I do isn't for everyone. I know that who I am and what I stand for isn't either. When I was younger I used to think I had to people please and shift who I was to serve each person that came to me. I tailored my gift towards entertainment and approval seeking which cost me way more than I was willing to give. These days I stand strong in the core of who I am for as long as I am able and I only want to connect with people who hold the same values as me. Those who honour love. Respect. Kindess. Those who are actively seeking to better themselves. Seekers. Lightworkers. Those looking for healing. Joy. Fun. Light. If you are looking for someone to run around a haunted house in the dark, I'm not your guy but I also hold no judgment over those that do that ( because I did it once! ). Like I said, we all work differently. So choose wisely, always remember that your intuition is the strongest psychic you will ever come across and be selective as to who joins you on your spiritual journey.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Making your own happy!

 

It normally stars with me slipping into a lull. I start watching more T.V than I want to, I get restless, I don't want to meditate. I basically start to morph into a whiny teenager. Stu even says to me that I have my “whiny face” on ( which may tell you more about our relationship than I would want you to know! Haha ). He's right though and I know that when that maudlin, angst ridden persona starts to show it's face that I need to get back to the things that I know lift my spirit. In the past I didn't recognise what was happening. I hadn't fully shed my own victimhood and I used to believe that emotions were things that happened to you rather than a relationship that you built. Becuase of this the whining went on for much longer than it needed to and grew to a much grander more dramatic scale that it ever should have. Thankfully my studies helped me to learn that happiness, or even day to day contentment is something that is generated. Even if you have the best job, the best lover, the best body condition available to you that doesn't guarantee you lasting happiness. You still have to get up, day to day and choose to invest your time into the things that lift you.

 

 

You won't always feel like doing the things that lift you. That sadness is often glamorous and attractive. Who wouldn't want to lay there for a few days feeling all dramatic about themselves? I get it and sometimes I still do it but that's why it's important to have some sort of spiritual practice. It acts a reminder that you have the ability to take control of a situation and make it your own. You may not be able to do much, but you can do something. For instance I mentioned in my blog last week that I hurt my knee ( yes I still can't walk on it ) and for a few days I conveniently “forgot” to check in with myself to see why I had created this situation. There must be a reason I chose to practically confine myself to the house? I'm in the process of unravelling it but for that few days I reveled in the “woe” of it all. Now we all know some people who spend their entire lives in that moment. We all know people who thrive on being ill and make it the topic of all conversations and we have all dabbled on that line ourselves but the question is, once you've realised what you're doing are you going to continue to chose to do it?

 

 

I know you as a powerful creator of worlds. I know that the Universe delivers to us the sum of our own energy even if we don't like what that is. I certainly don't like being sat here with a hot water bottle on my knee writing this but I own the fact that I created this situation. I own that it is on me to take time to heal. It is on me to make the most of what is in front of me and it is on me to find the joy at the centre of it all. My life is my own making and yours is up to you. You may have woken up and found yourself inside a life that doesn't feel like it belongs to you but the second you have woken up is the point where you are most powerful. From that moment on you are no longer a victim of circumstance but a powerful, magical, miracle maker who can shape your life in the direction of your choosing. You can and will become something more than you have been before. But as powerful as you are you still have to step into that power. You still have to take an active approach to your joy. Everyday happiness is built not discovered. It is created not found so go and make something, do something, find a place that lifts you and once you've done that, find another!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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When something is taken away...

 

Well what a start to the week! No sooner had I limped home from Uplands ( hurt my knee yesterday ) and sent out my tarot card on social media I received a call from Stuarts work saying that he is ill and needs to come home. Thankfully one of his work mates brought him back and I have to admit that I panicked a little because he's never ill. So to see him suffering from a migraine so bad that he's actually sick from it was bracing. I wanted to cancel all my clients to look after him but he said he'd be O.K but as it would happen half my day didn't turn up anyway. So I'm donning a Florence Nightingale tabbard and for today I shall be mainly caring! Right now he's sleeping away upstairs and I'm letting him rest. It's strange how clients do drop off when I need my attention to be on something else. It happens a lot. When a family emergency comes up or I'm not feeling well more often than not I don't have to rearrange clients because they cancel themselves. It's just another reminder to me of synchronicity. I get to do just enough to keep my mind level and the rest of my time my attention is on what it needs to be.

 

 

I read a quote recently that has stuck. “Life's rejection is sometimes God's protection.”. I swear there are so many times when I got lifted out, stopped or just plain failed at something I was doing and at the time it feels awful, but, not so long after I see that the “failure” turned out to be the best thing for me. I know that the Universe has my back. I know that everything is always working out for me. It may not seem like it at the time. What I'm going through might completely suck but I know that it's all in my best interests. Hindsight is 20/20 and it's through that lens you can look over your past and see how each thing you have experienced has within it a seed for your exponential growth. The Universe is always calling you towards the best version of yourself which is why sometimes if a path is going to lead you somewhere dark then the Universe will intervene. I know this can make people feel uncomfortable because it seems to negate free will but sometimes the will of the whole that is you needs you somewhere else. There really is a divine order to life and the more you learn to listen to that order the better for you.

 

 

It all comes down to the small voice of God within all of us. I'm not fussy on how it's languaged, God, Universe, intuition, it's the wisest, most enlightened part of us that calls us repeatedly in the direction of our best good. Sometimes through absolute stubbornness or a habitual fear the Universe needs to break down where you are in order to give birth to a better you. This is why when something is taken away from me these days I make the choice to let it go. If someone is pulled out of my life I wish them well. If something I am working towards completely flops then I don't stay in a lamented state for too long. My soul will always try and show itself to me not just through my actions but also through my life. There is a calling out there that you might be missing because you are stuck on something. Don't hate yourself or the Universe for removing the blockage. You haven't been set upon, you have been set free.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Ever been a victim of a rumour?

 

Rumours are the play things of childish minds too afraid to face their own reflection. Like so many of you I have over the years been the focus of and the perpetuator of gossip. When I was young I was acclimated to talking about others. In my mind I genuinely thought it was because I cared about people so much that I wanted to find a solution to their problems for them. I even think I believed that deeply at one point but, the Universe is designed in such a way that your energy goes where your mind flows so all of me, was sent out into the world to “support” others. When your life and conversation is always about talking about other people you give parts of yourself away to them that you have barely had time to enjoy. You enter into a negative energy contract and as good as your intentions are your actions can pave way to a dark space. Have you ever given someone advice and then been enraged when they ignored it? That's the kind of negative energy space I'm talking about. That's how to tell you are not in a space of concern but in a space of shared energy and with that an entitled sense of ownership. Another very dark thing that happens when we spend our time talking about others is that we create an avatar of who they are and then hold them hostage to it. We literally invent a person in our minds and imprint it on the people around us. Of course gossip isn't the only road that takes us to that place but it's a perfect example of how rumours, even ones inside your own mind are nothing other than stories that reflect who you are.

 

 

Have you ever been at the end of a relationship and felt like your partner has ripped a mask off and a completely different person has taken over their body? Me too. Have you ever had a friend say something so hideous that it's made your head spin? Yup. Have you also met up with someone you've heard horrible things about and found them to be the complete opposite? Definitely. I always try my best to follow my own gut when it comes to meeting people but I have to admit that in the past if I heard a bad thing about someone I did always let it taint my interaction with them. I placed my loyalty with my friends instead of my own sense of values and I allowed the projected stories of others taint how I interacted with them. I also have had to varying degrees this happen to me. I have been called mentally ill, a nasty witch, a con artist, amongst many other things and I have become adept at spotting people who have invented a story about who they think I am when meeting me. It's always interesting to see what happens when someone's beliefs are challenged. Some will hang onto what they think they know for grim life whilst others with burn what they think to the ground and rise again renewed.

 

 

What stories have you told yourself about the people around you? Who have you written off as mean? Who have you put on a pedestal? As the Universe dictates you will get back what you put out there. It's weird how often people can and do live up to the story you have told yourself about who they are. So, with that in mind, why not tell a different story? Why not see the authentic, autonomous and wonderfully beautiful people that are under the surface of some of those in your life. You may be lucky enough to already see the beauty in the hearts of those around you and if you are, well done! You see reflections of who you are, you see levels of your ability to connect, to forgive, to love and to empathise displayed in perfect synchronicity around you. When people are telling stories about you, they are only really sharing what they believe about themselves. These days I don't sit in circles and discuss people that aren't there. To be honest, the older I've gotten the less interesting other people's chaos has become. I like a quiet life. I talk towards and with love as often as I can. I share only what feels good and my friendships these days are based in two human beings just enjoying each other. Challenge what you think of others and why you think it. It may say more about you than who you think they are.

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Building your own wings.

 

 To say I believe in Angels is kind of silly. I no more need to believe in them than I need to believe in the chair I am sitting on or the laptop I am currently staring into. I don't need to believe in gravity and I don't need to believe in the earth being round, angels just exist and I know this because I've met more than a few. Now I know in the larger energetic sense of it all that angelic beings are respresentations of higher conciousness. I know that they are somehow shaped by the ideas of the people percieving them. I have always seen them in the traditional sense, lit from the inside and sometimes with giant wings. I have also seen them carry flavours of their human lifetimes. I have been taken on journeys by them, lifted out of my body. I have been blessed by them and shown reflected aspects of who I am and challenged in ways I never anticipated. Make no mistake, angels are as strong as they are beautiful and they will hold you to the best of yourself. We each get one, or sometimes more assigned to us throughout our human experience. I have been shown through my own experience and by being an observer of yours the intricate ways in which they intersect your life and how angels as a whole shape who we can become. It is important to note here though that even though their love and grace is unconditional that doesn't mean that they won't give you an energetic boot up the bum sometimes.

 

 

Have you ever had that experience when your life feels like it's absolute chaos and you are praying as hard as you know how to but nothing...nothing seems to be happening? Me too! Sometimes we need to make our own wings and be our own angels. Sometimes the best thing for our development as human beings is to take total and full responsibility for our actions. Angels can't and won't clean up our environment. Angels won't stop our choice to use fossil fuel. Angels won't bring you a million pounds. They will however hold you up to your own light so that you can step into the knowledge that anything is possible. Angels know that you are infinite and that you are powerful and that your life is not just of your own making but also part of a huge tapestry that connects you with everything else. Angels know the angel in you and they sometimes ask that you rely on that rather than generate a parent child relationship with them.

 

 

Where does that leave us? As always the onus on self reliance. You build your life moment by moment. Constantly creating your own dharma/karma by the things you give attention to and how you react to them. Even legitimate anger is still something that you are experiencing and doesn't hurt the person you are angry at. My rule of thumb when working with angels is simple, I pray and then I carry on with the most logical way I can think of to solve the problem at hand. When angels move, you feel it but sometimes they pick up the rope only when you've reached the end of it. When you've done all you can do, all you know to do, that's when it's a good time to sit back and let them take over. The more you let go, the more they can work. Sometimes they will viscerally alter your life and sometimes they will call you to make gentle side steps. They can talk to you directly through dreams and intuitive insights or they can put their words in the mouths of those around you. If people around you suddenly start talking strangely or if you catch your instinct guiding you to listen to someone then maybe that's them. I sometimes catch a sentence in my head. It won't be from a particularly spiritual conversation but sometimes something will just “stick” and after I chew on it for a while I ask if it's guidance and if they say yes then I go with it. Find your language with them. Work on your communication. They are there. They always have been.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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