Psychic Swansea

 

A Loving thing!

 

 

What is the most loving thing you can do today? I have started to ask myself this question over the last year and have answered it daily. Sometimes it's treating myself, sometimes it's sharing a hot drink with a friend, sometimes it's listening to a family member grow and learn to respect themselves. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let someone go, sometimes you can welcome someone in, the specifics of it can and do change frequently but what I do know for sure is that the more loving you become, the more loving you CAN become. The more I give to others from a place of pure self love and self respect the more room there seems to be in myself to do it.

 

What is the most loving thing you can do in work? What is the most loving thing you can do in your love life? What is the most loving thing you can do for your home? There are questions that are becoming almost daily mantras for me recently and it really is lighting up the people around me. Running classes, writing daily blogs, sharing paintings, throwing parties, meeting new people, buying presents “just because”, making gifts, making time, really listening, these are all extensions of the love I hold within me. These actions are becoming more prominent because I want to express this love more freely and because it just feels so good to do so.

 

I know a lot of people are going back to work and there are grumbles and aches and pains after a season of full bellies and families. Why not ask yourself what is the most loving thing you can do for your first day back at work? Even if it's something small like wearing your most comfy socks or taking a comfy pillow to sit on at your desk or even buying someone in work lunch for no reason there will be something you can do to bring that love from your heart and wash it all over your environment. You could take a thank you card or even the remaining chocolates that are never going to get eaten! Take a little time to think how you personally could make your environment more loving? For me today, because I work from home, that answer was simply to have a good clean and rearrange around my home so that when clients visit they are sitting in nice comfortable surroundings. It is for me to create a relaxing creative environment for me to write. It is to relax and replenish so that when work gets in full swing I am rested and ready. None of these are major things and they don't take long really so why not do it?

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Prayer

 

The space of prayer is sacred. It is a point where you ready yourself for divine communication and that communication goes both ways. Prayer is a space for listening as much as it is a space for asking. In the silence of prayer your answers are not only heard but embodied by your spirit. As it is true you are the substance and essence of the divine you can also resonate with its knowledge. All questions have answers within you and all answers, if they are true for you, will offer a road to peace.

 

I pray, daily. Sometimes on my knees in front of an alter and sometimes sat quietly with a cuppa watching the sea. I pray for my friends when they are in discomfort and I pray for people all over the world. I pray for my community and I pray for the people who have hurt me. I have become someone who prays. I never thought I would but now when I look back it's always been there. It's just that I, like many others used prayer only for the asking part and was only ready to listen when an answer didn't threaten to change my life too rapidly! Now a significant portion of my praying life is centred around listening. I light candles and contemplate. I like to draw pictures in front of the fire and be silent. I like to watch my dog sleeping! All these things offer silence enough to me that I can remain in the space of prayer.

 

I welcome it's change knowing that all prayer is communication with the divine and the divine is born of joy. Any change rooted in the substance of Joy can only really take you to a good place. So next time you light a candle for someone, or light a candle for yourself, remain for a moment in the space after a prayer. The longer you are there the more you will feel divine mind.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

A Big Thank You.

 

 

Today I want to say Thank you. Thank you for listening and thank you for being part of this sharing process. I had no idea this little blog or mailing list would affect you and myself this much. This little space to share my perspective on our spiritual unravelling has started to become something bigger than I intended. Receiving emails from you with questions and thoughts about my writings has put me in the most amazing position to think even deeper than I did before to reach for an answer I didn't know I was seeking. The fact this collective process has helped all those who participated in it and the way its helped has been an incredible thing to experience. Its strengthened my understanding that if you share from the heart you will find people who are doing the same.

 

I have recently had so many clients tell me wonderful things not just about how my work has affected them but also giving me compliments personally. I guess it's because on this journey I have had to let down walls and barriers to allow people to see into my heart in order for me to love them more. I have seen these compliments as a symbolic thumbs up from the Universe that my clients really are starting to receive the love I have for them. That this work to become a channel for peace and light on the planet is starting to have a ripple effect. I am even connecting with other mystics who have centred themselves in this space and it feels incredible.

 

I really want anyone reading this to know that there is a space within you where you can access unconditional love and peace absolute. I want you to know that everything that shows up in your life is an extension of your relationship to that peace. I want you to know that I work daily to share the love of everything around me with everyone around me. I do my best to let everyone who enters my life know that I hold nothing but love for everyone.

 

This last year has been a glorious unravelling and underneath it all, after the dust had settled and house had been thoroughly cleaned I found my captivation with the divine spirit.

 

With the Biggest Brightest Love

 

Have a wonderful festive season!

 

 

Ryan James

Potential of a moment.

 

Its the potential of a moment that has always attracted me. The initial gathering of energy. The instant when the Universe completes a synchronistic alignment of countless energies from countless sources and there you have it, a brand new thought! The enormousness of who and what we are never fails to utterly captivate me. The energy expressing itself as form and all the complexities and simplicities that go into this relative shape. It's just nothing short of amazing. What's more amazing to me sometimes is the manner in which this shape has the potential to change everything around it. It doesn't have to, it just has the potential to.

 

When you really consider that anything is possible it frees you. The truth of who you are really can set you free. And can then do it again. You don't have to create action, yet, but just knowing and holding within yourself the knowledge that you have the potential to, the capacity to and after a short while of contemplating these the desire to, anything can be within your reach.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

What would you create?

 

I write because I love to. I write because it puts me in the flow of the Universe. I write because I want to share this feeling with as many people who want to take part in it. I write because I want everyone to know the depth of their connection to each other and just how amazing we all actually are. I write because I believe in the beauty of sharing passion and I write for the LOVE of it. I don't get paid for this and yet every day for half an hour I am sat at the screen doing what I enjoy for the sheer love of it.

 

If money was no object and time had no meaning is there an activity you would indulge? When you have found something you love to do and you absorb yourself into it money and time have no meaning. It's the reason lottery winners sometimes keep their jobs, and millionaires get involved with charities. We all have the need to feel progression, to express our spirits and to share love. If you are feeling a little stuck in your quest for an activity that encompasses it then simply change your current perspective. If you were a millionaire, once all the parties and holidays had lost their flavour what would you want to do? If you had unlimited resources available to you, unlimited time and money what would you want to get involved in. Don't think of it in terms of a career or making money just yet, that will follow. Just the activity. Would you paint? Make music? Write books? Create communities?

 

Take some time and think it over. If you had unlimited access to every resource you ever needed what would you create?

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Gifts are energy.

 

 

It is such a magnificent gift to create something from thin air. To use only your imagination and the momentum of your spirit to create any experience you choose. After a very hectic day I walked passed a school on the way home and just remembered for a second what it was like to be a kid. How a giant play ground with a few white lines on the floor entertained me, entertained us all for hours! In the middle of the Christmas buzz we put the focus on presents and gifts that hopefully convey our care and love for those around us. But the gifts themselves aren't really the presents are they? It's the thought time and care that goes into them that makes them. More and more people are becoming energy sensitive and you really can feel the difference between a thoughtful gesture and a gritted must. I take it on board as a personal responsibility to maintain good energy and good people around me so I really like to be thoughtful with where my energy goes and this does include presents.

 

Choose a gift that encourages someone to have fun. Choose a gift that can awaken someone's passion. Choose a gift that encourages inspiration and doesn't replace it. Not just for Christmas but whenever you come across it. The act of giving is important. To be in the flow of it feels incredible. I love giving gifts and I love the preparation that goes into them, as I've got older I've even gone bezerk with bows and ribbons!! I do love how happy people can be this time of year and I wish we could carry that forward for the rest of it.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Dream Journal

 

The morning is a sacred time. A place for prayers and silence. Before we initiate caffeine and television and technology there is a place between sleep and awake that is purely magical. Still wrapped in the comfort of your subconscious the presence of your dreams meld perfectly with your waking mind. For years I have advised anyone on a spiritual path to record their dreams. I have dream journals dating back to my teens and they are a fascinating read. You can see patterns emerging and messages given to you. You get to see your subconscious uninterrupted and sometimes if you're lucky glimpses into your future.

 

It really is all there, right in the bed with you first thing in the morning. It's where I do my initial writing for the day and it's where my best ideas seem to come from. I have for years slept with a sketchbook and notepad next to my bed just to make sure I capture everything. I highly recommend for you to do the same. There is so much to be gained from getting even a glimpse into your dream life that it has inspired poets and artists for thousands of years. Be part of that inspiration and take a piece of your dreams and bring them into your day.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

A Process.

 

All you ever need to do is take the next step. You don't have to do it all. Just the next step. When you are fully in the flow of what you love on the planet its easy to get caught up in the end goal but what I've discovered is that even once you've reached your end goal it's only a few weeks before you give yourself another one. We are all constantly moving towards better versions of ourselves, towards more loving actions towards ourselves and accepting ourselves. When you take a step back it can all seem like a whole lot of work and believe me it can be that way if you MAKE it that way for yourself. But all you really need to do is the next thing and then the next.

 

Taking everything you experience one day at a time, taking each experience one moment at a time. Offering it no resistance and not trying to control it. Just accepting the sequence of moments and knowing that all you can do is all you can do. When you can become solely invested in the process of your life and not the end result it frees you. Pregnancy is a process. A vital one and one in which you must care for yourself and even once the baby is born their development is a process. You don't demand your newborn become the high flying joy seeking successful person you know they can be. Their development is a process. Becoming who they are is a process.

 

If you can apply that principle to your day to day it will begin to free you of stress. Tomorrow is another universe to explore and today's journey has already begun.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Your Words.

 

You are the first person to hear everything you say. It doesn't sound like much until you consider the energy content of your being. When you think about how much energy and consciousness goes into just keeping you breathing and looking relatively human shaped it's astounding. Then drawing upon universal energy to focus itself into something we call a thought which we then magnify and send back out into the universe through something we call language its no wonder so many mystics and spiritual people have been telling us to watch our words for years.

This is why it can be so beneficial to look for someone's uplifting qualities instead of their inhibiting ones. I used to be part of the train of thinking that you had to find your problems and unravel them. I used to think that you had to dig deep into your mind and figure out what went wrong and where and then spend time healing and changing it. That train of thought bled into most of my social groups where I would look for their “problems” in an effort to help out. I soon learned that my focus on all these inhibiting natures and qualities was doing nothing other than magnifying them. It really does benefit you more to focus on the positive uplifting qualities of those around you and when that becomes your focus problems either dissolve or the solution rises to the surface A LOT quicker.

Light is an expansive energy. It will reach out and can be seen from millions of miles away. Darkness is only ever a lack of light. These principles apply to the energy that leaves you and exists within you. When you focus upon and speak towards someone's light you get to see more of it, it applies within you and around you. Make a start today!

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Unconditional love

 

Your spirit is unconditional love and in my time on this planet I have done everything I can to align with that. That means expressing love for everyone on the planet, everyone in your life, everyone from your past and even yourself. To love the world as you would your own family is an incredible act of grace and I can gladly say I am doing all I can to remain on that path. I'm not saying it's easy, especially initially. We all get caught up in our ability to react to things and our emotional wounds can often cloud our perceptions of what's actually going on but with time, and normally time away, you can centre yourself back in love.

 

When your heart is full of love you don't lash out and you tend not to hang out with those who do. When your heart is full of love you tend to move at a quieter more peaceful pace. When your heart is full of love you look for the qualities in others that uplift and honour them. I do my best each day to act in a more loving way towards those around me. That can mean small things like paying a compliment, working harder to help the planet, improving my job satisfaction and spending time in joy. Unconditional love means just that. It comes with no strings attached and no roles to fulfil. It doesn't mean you disrespect yourself or compromise your morals. It doesn't mean you allow hurtful and harmful behaviour around yourself. It doesn't mean that you will put up with anything. It means that no matter what someone does or how someone behaves you love them. You love them and yourself enough to remain in harmony with your own spirit and within that harmony anything is possible. Within that harmony you have the power to invite them to a more loving place within themselves and to be honest, that's where most people are aiming to live whether they're aware of it or not.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

 

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Beautiful spaces!

 

Revel in the beauty of the people that surround you. It's so easy to spend your time looking at the negative sides or self destructive qualities of others but to be fully immersed in someone's beauty can change a room. I feel so lucky that last night I got to share my home with some friends who are some of the most beautiful souls I have come across on this planet. My stomach ached from laughing and my heart filled with love. I could actively see the strength, authenticity and genuine care of the people that were here and it was something everyone commented on. It was a very true experience of how the energy you bring to a room can change it.

 

When you interact with anyone on the planet you share a part of yourself. I don't mean a small fragment of time or even a momentary interaction. Each place you enter you dowse in your energy. It's the reason mystics and those of a sensitive spiritual nature can pick up on what's been happening in an environment long after the situation has ended and people have left. So if that is true of you then it is also true of the people that surround you. They dowse you head to toe in their energy. It really opens your eyes to the people you surround yourself with doesn't it?

 

A magical truth I learned a long time ago is that water rises to its own level. You reap what you sew. The Universe literally reflects back to you the energy you send out. So when you actively look for someone's beauty and actively express the love in your heart you will eventually, inevitably, find people who are doing the same. Last night was such a clear example of that. I have been actively thinking about how to show the people in my life my love for them. I have been actively thinking about ways to express that love and kindness and then I started taking steps to express that. I'm not saying its easy, but it can be done and the rewards are evident.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Inner wisdom.

 

 

Most if not all people on a spiritual path have a round about idea that there is an intelligence bigger than they are. That there is a mind that has more knowledge and insight that we could ever consciously obtain. We are the substance of that knowledge. The living expression of it. But how can that be applied to our lives? How can we access that inner wisdom to guide us through our day to day experiences? The good news is that inner wisdom is already speaking to you loud and clear. The good news is it has already figured out every answer to very problem you have and can easily guide you toward the solution. All you need to do, all any of us ever need to do is shut up and listen.

 

Your instinct, your intuition is always in direct communication with the wiser parts of you. Your emotions and thoughts are already being subtly guided towards the answers you need. All you can do to assist that is shut up. Literally. Be quiet! There is a reason meditation and inner silence are deeply ingrained in most spiritual practices. There is a reason all people on a spiritual path strive for peace. The quieter your house the clearer your communication with the divine. The second you calm your own thoughts the clearer you can hear those of the Universe.

 

Everything I write has some sort of basis in personal experience and none more so than creating silence. I was once heavily surrounded by chaos. It was unresolved wounds, unresolved pain, unresolved relationships and unresolved dreams and that was just the tip of the iceberg! The day I got my first taste of peace I became hungry for it like I'd never been before. The quieter my mind became, the quieter my life became the more I got in touch with the Universal language. I could literally feel a deeper conversation going on in the fabric of my life and that called me.

 

The benefits of creating silence has changed everything. It has surrendered me to divine mind. Surrendered me to Universal rhythm. I highly recommend you give it a try, you wont be the same again.

 

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Room for balance.

 

 

The Universe is in a perpetual state of balance and we can either be in harmony with that balance or not. We can either accept that we have the ability to completely smooth our lives over or not. There is a quote that says “The Universe is both self correcting and self organising.” - A Course in Miracles, but I would like to ask you whether you are consciously part of that? Do you look at imbalance in your life and say “Oh well!”, or do you do something about it? Because you can. Even in the middle of my Christmas rush with readings and organising and present buying and art commissions I find the time to sit down and write. It completely relaxes me.

 

I am very lucky in that I decided a long time ago to design my life around the things I loved. To fully envelope myself in my passions and the talents I have in this lifetime. My balance literally is all about squeezing in time to do all my passions. I do understand that the initial movement into that isn't easy. I've done it myself. But the initial surrender into the life I love was although bumpy in every sense of the word brought about a passion in me that was undeniable. When emotional contentment became the centre of my working life the things in my way fell apart and the things I needed fell into place.

 

When you work in alignment with the Universe it will help you out. When you make time for balance, it will balance you. When you make space for peace and love to enter you life everything changes. I speak from experience and what I know of the Mind we live in.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Creating community.

 

We are part of something incredible, something beautiful and something so wonderfully interactive that it can uplift and change us. Culturally we have begun in many cases to neglect this wonderful gift. Community. We are all a part of it whether we like it or not. I have many communities, spiritual, artistic, based on friendships, family and I have fallen into the trap most of us have. Looking at it's flaws. Pointing out when and where it needs improvement and remaining in that judgement. There is nothing wrong with judging something, we all do it and I think it is a necessary part of our cognitive process but to remain in that judgement instead of accepting it as a spring board to more peace is what can be and is often harmful.

 

Take a look at what surrounds you. Are your communities loving and supportive? Are they uplifting and mutually beneficial? Are your communities serving the world around you? I sat down and asked myself this question a long time ago and therein began a giant wave of transformation in my life. I had to say goodbye to some people and hello to others, I had to really become aware of my contribution to any gathering and group of energy and what I was willing to take from it. In order for me to become more loving to my communities I had to be more present. I had to be more loving and I had to give more of myself and not surprisingly my communities responded in kind. Of course some people fell away and some circles I don't travel in any more and of course I had to actively make room for new communities to thrive. If I felt there was a disconnect or any kind of need to create a community from scratch I did it. There really are positive uplifting circles for you to travel in.

 

The intention of this blog is to give you a heads up. Are you getting back what you're giving and if you're not why are you continuing to give? Are you being actively disrespected? Are you being loved and supported? Are you loving and supporting others? The communities you indulge are giant energy pools you dive into. Birds of a feather and all that. It is your responsibility to maintain your balance. It is your responsibility to make sure your energy is respected and loved.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Now is the time.

 

It's a time to gather. The energy in the air is palpable. This is beyond the general desires and wish lists for the year ahead. There is something happening right now in the Universe that is wonderful and uplifting. The energy feels like raw potential, un moulded universal mind. It feels like the substance of everything we need and desire to move upwards and inwards. This is a time to ask and pray for the things you want. Spend time creating your vision and how it will serve the world. Spend time thinking about the kind of world you want to live in. Spend time thinking about how you can help the people around you. Spend time thinking about the personal qualities you want to enhance and express in the world.

 

It definitely feels like a time to start making wishes and start making plans for those wishes to come true. It feels like the time between ask and receive is short. Ask also what the universe wants from you. Ask for your role in this glorious mind. Ask how you can serve the world around you and the people in your life. Ask about how much love you are willing to open yourself to.

 

Each year I create vision boards and life lists and I gather art diaries and sketchbooks and I fill them with everything I want to do. Its a whole process in itself. Candles, hot drinks and an ear to the Universal ground I start to co create. I have a few things in mind for next year but I'm not clear on them yet, I will make some time tonight to start listening and to start creating so that I can make use of this amazing energy that's around recently. I know it's going to last for the next 3 weeks roughly and then this cycle will be complete so get list making! Now is the time to ask!

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Your imagination!

 

 

Your imagination is an extremely potent tool in your spiritual evolution. It can explore possibilities, re live the past and fully access potential futures. We are often told as children not to day dream, not to indulge our fantasies. We learn as we get older to stop playing and start getting very serious. We learn all about routine and rigid ideals and systems. We seek out fun at every given opportunity and strangle it!

 

I was blessed as a young kid to have a natural interest in people. I love people watching, I love chatting to all sorts of different types of people and I love hearing about people's journeys through life and in my many years of listening I have found a lot of similarities. It has helped me to see that deep down in our boots we all want the same thing. To feel good. And what I have noticed is that when people feel good they start to do good. When your belly is full you don't mind sharing what's run over. When your spiritual belly is full you become more compassionate and when you truly love yourself you have enough to share with the entire world.

 

Imagine for a second what a heart full of love and an imagination full of potential could do on the planet. Imagine a world full of millionaires! Where resources aren't coveted and we treat children half way across the planet with the same respect and love as those under our roof. Imagine that money didn't limit you in any way and the only barrier between you and what you wanted was you figuring out what you wanted! It's all there within you. In that magical space between your two ears is a mind filled with potential. You have a gift to open and explore, so go do it!

 

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

The words you speak!

 

 

We have the ability to create within our lives. The ability to make art, make poetry, make a cake, anything really but it is there. In all of us. What I love to do and one of the most creative outlets I enjoy is creating a beautiful interaction between me and another human being. Saying something nice about everyone you meet and saying it to their face. Paying compliments. Giving your full attention. Being fully present with them in that moment. It might seem like common sense and you might already do it but doing it in a conscious way and in a way that is present brings with it the stillness and peace of your spirit.

 

How often have you had a conversation with someone and you know they're not really listening to you? How often have you had to ask someone to repeat themselves because you drifted off! When you are attentive and have consciously maintained a good flow of energy from your body through your words the rewards are amazing. Be mindful of the words that leave your body because they do represent the energy that leaves your body too. See it as a way of dusting off the cobwebs and cleaning the corners of your spirit. Look for the good and beauty in those around you and share it...with them!

 

Big Love

Ryan James

Support

 

 

How do we know when and where to support those around us? When is the right time to step in and help and when is it best to stand back and let people figure it out for themselves? There is such a fine line between being an uplifting force to being an unnecessary crutch in someone's life and that fine line is Joy. Yes, to assist either with physical action or emotional presence in someone else's evolution is one of the most amazing facets of my life and I'm thankful that in my work I get to do it every day. I love to assist in any way possible to help someone achieve their joy, I will just never do it for you. The journey is totally yours.

 

To be able to tell if you're helping someone or holding them back just take a good look at how it feels to help them. If it's literally draining you of all your life energy then rest assured it's doing the exact same to the person you think you're helping. It's draining them of their adulthood, their connection with their spirit and more often than not their ability to hold responsibility in their centre. Genuine support helps all those involved. Genuine support uplifts all those involved and genuine support always illicit s genuine gratitude. This is a lesson I have learned in my lifetime! My desire to help others definitely crossed the line into “doing it for them” and the reason why you fall into that trap would take up a whole load more room on the page!

 

So if there's someone in your life right now who you are supporting and it feels life draining to do so then start to respect them and yourself even more by being respectful of the energy you bring them. Those around you always receive in some way shape or form the energy you bring them. Not necessarily your action or your words but the content of your energy. You can see it in the level of care between a nurse who loves her job and nurse who hates it. Ask yourself what kind of healer are you? What do you bring to the table? Are you supporting yourself and more importantly are you willing to respect everyone in your life enough to let them do it for themselves?

 

Have a good think on that for today!

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

A space for quiet.

 

 

We are created from the substance of the Earth. We are the minerals and materials of the Universe around us. We are sacred, beautiful expressions of Life, the question is do you treat yourself like it? I treasure sacred times and places, the moments in between moments of our lives. They are where we truly begin to take stock of everything we have experienced. I have in my home over the years, no matter where I've lived, always made sure there was a physical space that I could call sacred. It has been the comfiest chair in the house, the quietest room in the house or even a wooden alter decorated with candles and incense. The construction of it doesn't really matter what does is that you recognise it as a space where you make the time to LISTEN to the conversations going on within you.

 

Cultural routine, should haves, would haves, must dos, there are so many things we tell ourselves throughout a day its important we create a space in our lives and in our homes to listen to it. Some of what we tell ourselves is absolute crazy and the more we listen to our crazyness the easier it is for us to let it go. I have found this practice so valuable to cultivating stillness and peace because it is a space that entitles you to do things like, turn off the phone and not look at a pile or work/bills. It's purpose is for you to get quiet and listen to the inner rumblings of your spirit. When you honour and respect that within yourself it grows to a point where it ripples out. Eventually that sacred quietness is something you will take into each part of your life. It has the ability to infuse itself into everything you do. The only question is whether you allow it to.

 

Big Love

 

 

Ryan James

Take care of Now!

 

 

Just for today I want to offer you a “get out of jail free” card. Just for today I want you to put to one side everything that you have been taught is important for you to do. Today I want you to mentally put away any demands made of you and take a moment to breathe. We all have goals and wishes and dreams. We all have spiritual paths to follow and energy to create on the planet. We all have people to love and histories to forgive. We all have a vision of the future.

 

Our emphasis tends to be on where we are going, culturally we have built a society built on the idea of destination. What about today? Today I want to give you a mission to sit for a moment and think about what you can do TODAY to make yourself feel better TODAY. Not preparing for tomorrow or any other future event. How can you pamper yourself and your spirit today? What do you need to do today to take care of your needs? A hot bath with a book, buying a little something for yourself on your lunch break, looking online to leave a job you hate, eating your favourite meal, cuddling up with your special someone, any of it! Just think for a moment the one thing that could put a smile on your face at the end of the day.

 

We spend so much time preparing for the future we tend to lose the present moment. We tend to neglect where we are now. We seem to forget that where we are now is creating where we are going! If we don't take care of the energy that is us today then it can't take care of us tomorrow. It really is true that the universe can act like a giant mirror. The energy that flows from your body is replicated in all areas of your life. That's why in my work I place such a huge emphasis on self care. For me it is a spiritual MUST. I wake each morning and write, do yoga, cuddle my dog and organise my house, ALL of which I love to do. I feel wonderful and fulfilled, and then when I sit down with that days clients THAT is the energy I bring them. That is how I show my respect for them. By taking care of the energy that I bring them.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Being yourself.

 

 

Your life, your existence, your spirit, this entire Universe is in perpetual motion. Everything we see, feel or sense around us is in momentum. So with all of this pace and speed around us it just doesn't make real spiritual sense when someone says they feel “stuck” or “bored”. I'm not saying those emotions don't exist, because they do but they are symptomatic of a lifestyle comfort that is inhibiting and toxic.

 

When we are in great pain we are willing to create great change. We almost have to. The overwhelming feeling of hurt makes you unable to stay within it. That's why when most people are heartbroken or grieving they are open to re shaping their lives a lot more. I've done it myself and have seen it in so many clients. It would however serve you and your spirit a lot more if you were willing for that level of change to happen WITHOUT the great pain first. I have seen so many clients over the years that have settled into a comfortable life only to eventually feel smothered by it. I have seen people create the perfect marriage or job or family only to then feel overwhelmed by it.

 

When you allow yourself to love without attachment to the outcome. When you allow yourself to become fully engrossed in the evolution and love you express as a spirit on this planet you will learn to find peace and comfort in the momentum itself! The answer to feeling stuck or trapped by your life is actually a question... “Where are you not being yourself?”. It is only when you stop being true to who you are that your life begins to feel sluggish. It is only when you stop expressing your fullest and truest self that your body and mind start to feel heavy and cumbersome. Don't worry though you can never truly stop the flow of your life, but you can make it feel crappy. If you find yourself in this situation somewhere at some point in your life then be brave enough to ask yourself the question, “Where am I not being myself?”.

 

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Faith is a living thing.

 

Faith is a living thing. A visceral, live and tangible experience. It is something that changes you so profoundly that once you've truly held it in your heart you are never the same again. It is not blindly or idly following a dogma. That is spiritual submission. To have faith is to listen so carefully for what God/The Divine Mind/Universe/Source has specifically for you inside your own heart that you are ready to free yourself of whatever you currently experience to follow your guidance. I think we all have our own specific purpose on this planet, a unique contribution. I think it is always wrapped inside our joy and covered in our bliss. To do what we love IS to do what we are put on the planet to do. I think we all have our own unique “Bible”, our own code of conduct, I personally think that our bible is our intuition. Which is by far one of the most powerful gifts I think we possess.

 

Over the years I have had many conversations with sceptics, atheists and many others of specific religious denominations and I have found a marked difference between those who “believe” in a higher or broader consciousness, and those who have experienced faith. Faith comes without judgement and without dogma. Faith is an understanding and respect of everyone's unique and beautiful journey. Faith doesn't tell anyone that they are wrong or that the thoughts they carry are evil. Faith is an experience and a journey all to itself. I often find myself at a loss for the right words to explain the experience because I really do think that unless you've had this experience you never quite understand it. When I speak to people who have faith, even if it is dressed in a religious denomination there is rarely conflict, they speak to the divine and are ready to listen when the Universe speaks to them. When you have that connection it becomes your “go to” place when anything happens in your life.

 

Instead of worrying these days I offer prayers. Instead of judging another person I surrender both myself and them to the Universe. Instead of trying to understand THE truth I know the only truth we only ever truly experience is a personal one. You really can tell the difference between people who are expressing their faith and those who are chanting their religious dogma. The big difference I find is in their actions. I think people who have experienced faith just tend to get on with it. They live it day in and day out and actively seek out the best in themselves and those around them. I know I am changed since my experience of faith. It has already been an enlightening and wonderful journey and I can't wait to see where else it takes me.

 

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

The quantity of self.

 

 

What is the substance of your nature? What makes up what you think is you? How do you finish the sentence “I am....”? We all have created different identities and different personalities, we have all self invented versions of our histories and we have all without question at some point denied what we naturally are. So what are we? As divine extensions/reflections/expressions of a conscious living thriving being we often inhibit our knowledge to take on board what we think we should know. We often deny our truest selves in order to seek external approval. I have watched clients get married to prove they were ok to their parents. I have seen people stay in jobs they hate to prove their worth to neighbours! I have seen women betray their bodies to seek approval from men s sexual energy and I have men abandon their dreams because they have deluded themselves into thinking its their sole responsibility to take care of a family.

 

A huge if not the focal point of my work is to help people align themselves with who they are. To help people to see the truths that lay sometimes dormant in their system. I love to watch people shed off everything I thought they had to be and truly become the essence of who they are on the planet. I recently watched an older lady giggle like a school girl in front of me because she had finally opened her heart to herself and in doing so welcomed a man into her life that could honour it. She had spent near enough 60 years pleasing those around her and finally it was time for her to create her joy on the planet. My heart opened up completely and I could do nothing but smile at someone who had heard the call of her spirit and listened. Days like that are the reason I do my job. To even be a small part in helping someone create that level of joy in their lives is a true blessing and I am grateful to participate in it.

 

When we deny who we are, when we deny what we know to be true what we want cannot appear. You may have the appearance of success but it will never be more than a glamorous cover up. If you stand in your personal truth, if you honour what is the substance of who you are then everything you want, need and desire flows to you effortlessly. When you don't then it can't come. This is why I spend so much time trying to get people to ask themselves what they truly want out of their time on the planet because I have the perspective of those on the other side. The window dressings of your life are not what we take. I have never had a spirit brag about how much money they made in a lifetime. They always speak about the moments they shared, The love they gave and received and the care they extend even beyond their lifetime. Look at the quality of your life and it will always be a perfect match for the quantity of yourself.

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Creating loving relationships!

 

 

To create any loving relationship in your life requires a whole heap of vital ingredients. Without these we will inevitably seek to find them in others and therein lies the problem with most of the couples in crisis I encounter. We need to approach a relationship as a complete person. As a rounded energy. As a being with an awareness of total responsibility. You have to love, respect and accept yourself at the very least. Without self love you become needy and co dependant. Without self respect you create hurt and shame. Without self acceptance you become aggressive and gossip riddled. If you're relationship is missing any of these essential ingredients then the relationship will eventually become something toxic and inhibiting mainly because without any of these YOU will become inhibiting and toxic to those around you.

 

A loving relationship is two souls coming together to play and interact and share. There are no missing halves of the greater whole although I can understand why it can feel that way sometimes. When you finally love yourself you do feel complete, but take the credit for it! When two self loving and self caring people come together they inevitably look after, love and share with the person they're with but there is no NEED to. They are not filling gaps in each other. They are not taking part in someone else's story. They are being themselves and in that utterly soul centred way, by the definition of the grace that comes through a person who genuinely loves who they are they bring respect and honour to that space. They know who they are so they know what they want. They know who they are so they know when to stand strong and when to let go. Tey know who they are so they know that change is constant. They know who they are so they aren't attatched to the change around them.

 

Any relationship you have whether it be a lover, a friend, an employee or a business. KNOW WHO YOU ARE going into it. Centre yourself before you step forward. Don't demand that anyone else in your environment act in a way that solely pleases you. Demand that people please themselves. A happy person can affect a whole room with a laugh. Same is true of someone who centres themselves in love, peace and spirit. The nature of who you are determines the nature of what you live. The substance of your heart determines the what it is able to receive.

 

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James

Beautiful!

 

Beauty is one of the most relative and talked about concepts. Some say its in the eye of the beholder, some under a surgeons knife but for me beauty seems something we hold and have regardless its just as we grow up we learn to judge it. I don't just mean physical aesthetic beauty, that can and does fill many books and magazines, some giving tips on how to achieve it and others giving tips on abandoning it. I think beauty is reverence for the action of nature. When we catch a glimpse of it's utter perfection it is so awe inspiring out ego's can do nothing but bask. Of course it immediately tries to then control and judge it but for that moment it is silenced and I think the more we live in that silence the more we are able to hold beauty within us.

 

A good example is when we have the experience of falling in love. That is an opening to beauty that is consistently uplifting. We are told that it doesn't last and that's true for most people but what we don't even contemplate is why. Why can't we remain at that point of absolute appreciation in the perfection of another human being? It's because we begin to judge, we see reflection of ourselves creeping in, we see our wounds in others. When you are in love you can see someone's essence and nothing but. You overlook flaws. Love truly is blind, blind to judgement and criticism and even beliefs. At the point of falling in love you hold beauty square and centre to your being. You see it everywhere and begin to support everyone. You have knowingly or not surrendered to the knowledge of your spirit.

 

Notice how often throughout your day you feel that sense of beauty. Not in comparison to another human being or another situation, just beautiful. How often do you just sit there feeling the momentum of that beauty? How often do you honour beauty in other people? Do you see the beauty in other peoples actions? You already possess beauty, that is a natural gift of your form and existence, all you need to do is create room in your heart and in your life to express it.

 

Big Beautiful Love

 

Ryan James

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