Psychic Swansea

 

Get creative.

 

As you all know by now I don't just do readings. I also write, paint, journal and make music. Creativity and spirituality for me are bedfellows. I like to begin and end my day on something creative to keep my mind open and ready to think through any situation that might arise. Creativity is meditation for me. It's mindfulness. It's an open door to a better feeling place. For years I was told that I had to pick one thing and just like it or lump it. It began in school where you had to choose between art, music and drama. You were not allowed to do all three. When I moved schools there was no humanities programs there are all so anything creative was off the table. But that idea of singularly picking out one thing to do followed me through college and University. The idea that I had to choose just one thing to focus on in order for it to become something is an idea that has taken me years to dismantle. Each time I chose something I would always feel like I was cutting off an arm or something. It was as if mentally there was no room in my life to do all of them let alone psychic work on top of that. I was also pulled into the idea that if it's not earning you money then it's not valid. I fully believed that REAL artists earn from their work. I couldn't have been more wrong.

 

 

Art is mandatory for my well being and I suspect yours too. Human beings by nature make things more beautiful than they need to be. When people tell me that they are not creative I never quite believe it. If there's carpet in your home, pictures on the walls, trinkets that help you create a feeling of connection then that is creativity. For so many people their home is their canvas and I love that, I just don't think that it has to stop there. Now I'm not saying you should all run to art school but that's O.K. If you want to, but why not take up a creative hobby? Why not paint, draw, jounral, write stories, pick up an instrument? No one has to see what you are doing. No one has to judge what you are creating. It is a completely internal journey that you are entitled to take. When I tell people to make art the first thing they come up against is an ingrained shame. The idea that because they might not be technically skilled at the very beginning or if they have deemed themselves untalented that they somehow don't have the right to even play. YOU have the right to give it a go. You have the right to sit there with whatever you enjoy creating and do it for no other reason than it brings you pleasure.

 

 

The only creative problem I ever come up against is time management. I want to be able to fit everything in all at once! I draw every single day, I play piano every single day, I write every single day. If I don't do it for a few days I start to feel really off. It's like the world loses it's flavour a little bit. Yes I am self employed so I get more agency with my time management and I'm not saying you have to do what I do but I would like to kindly invite you to the space where you feel you have the right to find out what art makes you tick. I've met so many artists from skilled bakers to incredible milliners. It's all up for a try so why not give it a go. Start small. Take a sketchbook on the train to work, doodle in your lunch hour, find a class locally and go once a week. You will feel better once you're involved in the creative process. It will elevate you to a better feeling place and as a wonderful side effect it will make you more intuitively open and sesitive to shifts in energy. Give it a go!

 

 

Thank you for listening,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Does manifesting really work?

 

If you've been reading this blog for any length of time you'll know that I am a huge proponent of manifestation. It's the principle of Law of Attraction, that which is like unto itself is drawn. It resurfaced into popular culture recently through the video “The Secret” which is based on the work of a channel called Abraham who speaks through Esther Hicks. The information isn't anything new. Do unto others. Karma. There are many ways of speaking this Universal principle and the more I delve into it the more I am fascinated by watching it play out both in my life and the lives of those around me. It's not just positive thinking. It's not just pretending to be happy when you're not. I personally cringe when the “fake it till you make it” slogan gets thrown around. People aren't stupid and they can small a lie even if they can't fully language it straight away. Manifestation is about languaging love. Love at it's nucleus contains honesty and it's the authenticity of who you are that will help you to create the things that you want. Manifestation is sold to so many through being able to create flashy cars, lots of cash and a holiday lifestyle but a HUGE component of that was left out. It's the part that's less marketable. It's the relationship with the energy that you are co creating with.

 

 

The Universe responds to the sum of who you are. That means everything that is happening on every level of your being is unfolding all around you. Your dreams, your goals, your wounds, your past. There are both echos of your history and future all around you and it's in creating this relationship with the divine that helps you to sort out what is needed for you to move to where you want to be. I've noticed that the older I get the less focussed my goals are. Maybe focussed isn't the right word, it's more like it would be nice if they happened but I've lived enough life to know what's really important and I'm not giving that up. I love who I am, I have access to a working healthy body and my relationships with other human beings are good, grounded and growing. Things like wanting to get my book published, having a gallery exhibtion of my art work, creating a new music album, drawing my own tarot deck, writing more books, these things I would love to do and it would bug me if they never happened but it wouldn't uproot my life. The stakes of my goals are less impactful but that's not to be confused with less important. We need things to work towards, to create.

 

 

There is a direct relationship in my life between meditation and wellness. The more I learn to cultivate inner silence the happier I become on every level of my being and as a result of that I create more wonderful things in my life. The greatest tools you'll need to manifest a life that feels good is already with you. I don't think it's healthy to block out “negative” thoughts because they can directly lead you to things that you want but inner silence can give you the ability to make sure that the negative thinking doesn't impact your life. Once you've taken the power out of it you can let it go. If this interests you pick up some books on the subject and have a read. Dive into it and see what you can discover. Remember, it's an internal journey and the more you pay attention to what you feel the more you are able to create a life that your heart can recognise!

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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How thin the veil is.

 

The veil is so thin between this life and the one after. We manifest a body for a short time and we play on this planet for a bit and then when we are done we shift our awareness back to where we came from. Sometimes we incarnate over and over again, such is the thrill of living. Sometimes we incarnate laterally and inhabit many bodies at many different time periods over the course of what we call history. What is clear is that we...don't...end. Saying this is not to delegitimize grief. Of course we feel deep sadness when someone leaves the planet but what people seem to wrestle with most is resolving a truth that most of us have forgotten. That the person we have said good bye to is still in deep relationship with us. Just because they no longer inhabit bodies it doesn't mean that they love you any less, care about you any less or as someone of you have discovered in my readings been willing to give you a kick up the bum any less. When someone leaves the planet we wrestle with this weird truth all the time. We crave the physical interaction but we know deep down that we still have access to all the emotional interaction we need. It can get clouded during the darker moments but the quieter you get in your heart and spirit the louder you can hear all the kindness that surrounds you.

 

 

When you talk to people in spirit, they listen. They really do hear everything and quite often talk back. You may not hear the shape of their words but you can definitely feel the content of their love. You don't need to be a psychic to do that. If you have a pressing issue and need clarity, you can ask for them to send you a dream, a sign or to put you in alignment with the right psychic for you. Either way they are right here in this moment with you. Take your time and really digest the gravity of that understanding. That means that you never face any problem alone, it means that you never face any conflict without vast help and it also means you have access to the wealth of experience of all those who surround you. You may look like one person but you have always stood as an army of light. Sink into that truth and find ways to remind yourself of it every day. I make a point of chatting to my grandparents, a few friends who passed and a few friends I've made in spirit over the years before every reading. I know I get to hear them back but that's not really the point. Conversation isn't always verbal and in the same way as we sometimes have to learn the language, mood and intention of our pets we can learn to read the Universe and how the people we love use it as a way to get messages to us.

 

 

You are not crazy for talking to a photograph of someone you love. You are not crazy for knowing in your heart that they talk back. They are with you all day, every day. Sometimes they have jobs to do and need to take a little break, sometimes they need to heal their own spirits. You don't lose free will just because you've out lived your body. So take some time to connect or reconnect with the people who have left the planet. Light a candle, pray, remember the love that you shared and use that love as a platform to continue bringing their light to wherever you are. Over the years people have labelled what I do as an access to the “spirit world” but to be honest we're all in the “spirit world” it's just that some of us have bodies right now and others don't. It's SO close to us, like neighbours except the boundaries are not the walls of your house but the amount of love you able to withstand. Dare to love more today and welcome them in.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Managing self doubt.

 

Self doubt is, to put it spiritually, a pain in the ass. Recently I have questioned myself more than I have in years and each time I I find myself falling into that sinkhole the Universe gives me a slight nudge to remind me to trust because that's all self doubt really is, a lack of trust I the flow of the Universe. Now it's O.K not to trust to the Universe from time to time, she has been known to bring some questionable situations to the table but throughout it all she also brings the guidance to get you through it. We all have that little voice inside of us that knows. It just knows. When you are looking at someone, something or you are somewhere that isn't right for you there is a part of you that knows. It's listening to that part that is the foundation of a spiritual practice. I was speaking with a client yesterday about the spiritual energies that have been dominant this year. I don't think anything particularly worse has happened in peoples lives but the energy has wiped out our capacity to deal with it. This exhaustion has swept over us all and now that it is starting to lift it's like the clouds are parting and we are finding outselves again. The patterns of self doubt that I have been grappling with all year I now see clearly. I think we have had a global lesson in empathy. I think for the most part we have been allowed to feel the energy content of our culture and next year will be ridiculously action based.

 

 

It's O.K to question yourself. It's O.K to critique yourself. It's not O.K to criticize and belittle and sink your self worth into the ground. Self doubt is like a fog horn in your mind saying in one way or another that who you are or what you are doing is not enough. I get it, I've lived it a lot worse than I have this year but I am fortunate in that I have a skillset to deal with it. When your mind is playing havoc with you, you have the option to quiet it. You have the option to seek out any and every form of meditation you can get your hands on. You have the option to recognise that what you are feeling is not what you want to feel and then you can MAKE A CHOICE to feel something different. That doesn't mean that you will feel different automatically but making a choice, getting a goal, using your capacity to focus on something that you desire even if it is a feeling is a step towards autonomy. You have way more power in your life than you might think and you have even more power within your own body. All human beings have been given the gift of free will, use it. Make a choice.

 

 

Sometimes self doubt is like a stone in your shoe and sometimes it's like a brick in the face. Either way the answer to dealing with it is always same. One step at a time. You may have to make the choice to want to feel better 10 times a day and that will be tiring in itself but not making the choice costs you even more. You are good enough. You are worthy. You are sacred. You are a soul manifesting a human experience for the sheer hell of it. There is real joy, real happiness right where you sit in this moment. The first step to tapping into it is recognising that it is there. All spiritual practices function on this principle. That's why so many mystics call this process a remembering. You already know your value despite maybe having been taught something else. Its right there with you. You really do matter. You really are important. Surrender your mind to the light that you are built from and find the smallest nugget of quiet in your life, that's all you need to make a start.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Im back with good news!

And howdy doo! Hope you've been keeping yourself out of trouble these last two weeks and boy am I glad to be back at the helm. I forgot how much I enjoy my routine and my lifestyle and to top it off I return with good news, we found a house! It's not too far from where I am but it's bigger, it's off the hill and it seems like a quiet location. The place needs rebranding in my style but all of that is the fun stuff when it comes to moving. We viewed the house at 12.30 and by 4.30 our offer had been accepted and paper work had already been signed. All we are waiting for now is solicitors and moving dates so wont be too long before we are sat somewhere new. We also planned to either go to Greece for a week or find a cabin somewhere but it just doesn't feel like a smart move to fork out the cash so close to moving and so close to ( dare I say it ? ) Christmas! So for the last two weeks I have eaten too much, slept too much and did my best to morph into a vegetable...and it was amazing! But now I'm back at the laptop, writing again and playing with the projects I'm interested in.

 

 

This morning I rededicated myself to my yoga practice and realised just how long it's been since I've done any. My foot is healing a lot quicker now that the house energy is resolved ( I think my body literally would not let me keep my feet on the floor in this home ) so stretching my body out again is exactly what I needed and a quick 15 minute meditation straight after has set my mind right. After writing this blog I have some more intuitive exercizes, poetry and meditations to do before I spend a nice long day connecting with spirit. My head is FULL of energy and two weeks is about as long as I can go without doing a reading properly. I start picking up on things all over the place and my dreams get interupted so I'm glad to be working out all my spiritual muscles again. The break has also helped me to see that I was starting to slip right back into putting pressure on myself to be continually productive and I started to take life a little too seriously again. Making sure I did nothing, having a complete break was lovely. I mainly watched netflix and played in my sketchbook ate out loads and had many afternoon naps. Sometimes you don't quite realise you are slipping into an old habit of a negative routine until you find time to stop.

 

 

I am about to slam right into the busiest time of year for me. My books are full and I am also aware that I will get many drop outs and rearrangements last minute because everyone will go a little crazy in the holiday season, so, I'm making my yoga practice and morning meditations more mandatory creating a little room at the beginning of each day to catch myself before I slip into a pressure based mindset. I swear sometimes I need a daily reminder for me to take it easy and that's what I'm giving myself. The last quarter of the year is al about reviewing what we've been up to. This is the time of year when compassion needs to be more effective because it's easy to slip into the idea of failure. Stop looking at what you didn't get to do and look at what you did. Stop looking at what you didn't achieve and look at what steps you did take, and hey, if you didn't take any steps towards your goal this year then you still have two months left! You don't have to do it all, just do a little. I much prefer the “little and often” philosophy. In a culture where radical change is fetishised be the opposite. Bit by bit, step by step. Be vigilant in this over the next few months and relax into the last chapter of the year.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Spotting toxic people.

 

I would dread getting the texts by the end of it. I knew that the second that she was coming over that it would be hours of her talking about herself, inventing scenarios that are barely rooted in reality for nothing other than garnering sympathy and promoting her identity as a victim. I would take a big deep breath every time I knew a visit was happening until, after months of our meetings leaving me exhausted the penny finally dropped. I had to learn what I already knew...again! Bracing for impact is a tell tale sign that the people you are around are toxic to your energy. When you have to, and I mean have to say a silent prayer or take a big deep breath before you walk into a room with someone then it's probably not someone you should be hanging around with. It is always our responsibility to maintain our own energy systems. Doing so requires thoughtful examination of the self and a careful awareness of your emotional authenticity. Responsibility for your own energy system means that you never really require someone else to make you feel better. That's not to say that you don't need help or the occasional support system but all of the energy contracts are clear, spoken about and on the table. It's the unspoken energy grabs that pull people into toxicity.

 

 

Toxic people often aren't aware of their own toxicity and even if they were they would often find someone else to blame. When someone is obnoxious, rude or aggressive then it's easy to spot their negativity but most of the energy thieves that I have come across have done so with a smile on their face. They are the people whom when you leave them you feel drained, or stressed. I know that happens during stressful or draining times but these energy types are always in that space in some shape or other. When I recognised this I just stopped calling. I withdrew from the friendship slowly and surgically so as to almost go unnoticed. I also made a concious effort to keep my energy my own on the times that we did connect until eventually she stopped calling too. When a toxic person isn't getting what they demand from you they will either drop off the map or attack you for more. I don't care what title that person has in your life, your family, partner, friends, if someone is costing you your energy then you need to recognise it and enforce a boundary.

 

 

It would be stupid of me to not point out the obvious here. That toxic energy types only turn up in your life by invitation. As much as I demand that people around me be responsible for their energy I have to be responsible for mine. If I don't believe and behave in a manner that states that my energy is worth guarding then that's what I'll attract. If I believe that I should sacrifice my sanity for others then I will attract that. If you don't guard your own energy boundaries then people will turn up to take from you. Ensure that your soul is not a feast for someone who is looking to prop themselves up using you as a crutch. Also be aware if you are doing that unintentionally to someone else. If you can't sit in your own silence, if you can't be still with who you are and what you are feeling then you just might be acting in a toxic way yourself. Think on this and as always, start by building a good “love or above” mindset from the inside out.

 

 

Thank you for listening,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Making a new start.

 

The biggest trick to making active life changes is to make them habitual. To make the small steps towards progress so steadily that you can almost over look them. If your goal is to write a book then my advice is to write every day. Even if you only end up writing a sentence a day that's still a sentence more than you would have the day before. If you want to make art then even getting a small bit done daily mounts up by the end of the week. The same goes for music, study and building a business. All you need before you begin is a plan and even that plan can be something you work on a bit at a time. Start by thinking about where you want to be. How much wealth do you want to create? How much work do you want to do? What type of work do you want to do? Apply this philosophy to other parts of your life. Romance is a collection of a million small acts. Flowers and chocolates are nice but so is taking the time to sit with your loved one before both of you start your day. A quick text to let someone know that you love them, a note, a poem, it doesn't take much work to build a life centred on love and creativity but it will always take effort, especially initially.

 

 

You have to start wherever you are and I get it that sometimes when you are building a new life that you aren't starting with much. It gets harder to course correct the older you get, it feels like the resources are more limited, the expectation is more severe and there is less of a conversation around you about this shift. It feels cliché to say it but the biggest hurdle to creating change is yourself. The guilt that you “should have this sorted out by now?”, the internalised ageism, the dependants in your life, the financial obligations, all of it can feel like a towering “No!” over any change you want to create. But still that moment comes at 2 in the morning, when you can't sleep again and that sinkhole of dread fills your gut at what you know is coming at you a day ahead. I get it, I've been there and I still get there now and again. The only remedy I have found that works is to make a choice that you are going to change it. Even if you don't know how yet, just make a choice, then, get a plan. Once you have a plan, make a start. No matter how small a start, a small move in the direction you want to go in is still movement.

 

 

It will help you more to change from a passive interaction with your life to a more adult sense of ownership. It is after all YOUR life. Your time is limited and also precious. Be sure to seek the light that you deserve and if no one has ever told you then then allow me, YOU DESERVE A GOOD LIFE, however you define that! If you are feeling lost, alone and disconnected from everyone around you, if you are coming to the horrible yet necessary realisation that you really are the only person that can change your life then make a start. Any start will do but make it. Don't just create change for change sake. Get some pen and paper and start jotting down thoughts and ideas. Start a journal. Start a group. Call a University and get a prospectus. Book a date night. Look at a holiday brochure. Anything that looks like a step towards discovery, take it! Good Luck!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Are you taking the time to remember?

 

The incense smoke rolls over the room and I sink into a different head space. The flickering light of a candle cast fluid shadows over the walls and I put a piece of paper and a pen on my lap. I love to doodle when I connect with the Universe. Sometimes I think I tap into the space of automatic writing, mainly because sometimes I end up with messages written on there for me and sometimes I think I am just keeping my brain busy whilst my spirit takes over. Either way I'm not too focused on the process. All I care about is that I end up in the emotional and spiritual space I intend to go to. It's like I see into the world. It's easy to get distracted by the physical beauty of the world but once you see the magnificence just underneath the surface you will be hungry for that light your entire life. Life is sacred. All life, in all spaces and at all times. I feel that with all my heart and there are no exceptions. The whole world we experience is an alter. A sacred place to remind us that we are part of something bigger, that we ARE something bigger. I cannot spend time by the sea or walking through the trees without viscerally connecting with this truth. I am more than the boundary of my skin. I am a dream in the mind of the divine. But I also need to pay my bills, walk the dog, see to my family, clean that crappy bit down the side of the cooker, figure out what Oscar stained the carpet with and pray it isn't poop. As majestic as we are you are totally legitimate in not feeling that way all the time.

 

 

This is why we need reminders. For me it's incense, candles and some tarot cards. Sometimes I set up an alter and do some chanting, sometimes I meditate and draw, sometimes I fold origami birds and focus on being present. When I am invested in these activities something about the very energy of the space I am in shifts. I am aware of the flow of the world and sink into the blurry line between who we think we are and everything else. It's all so fragile, not just life, reality. It really is just a blink of an eye. When I feel like my problems are becoming too much to handle I try my best to find this place. This is why I have a practice and why I think it's O.K to have a sacred space in your home. You may not have room for one, but choosing to name a place as sacred, even for a short time can help you shift into the idea that you are part of something brighter than you are experiencing right now. We all need reminders. I am lucky that I need to have that space daily in order for me to do my job. I need to connect with the energy of the world in order to do what I do, my reminder is really to remember to do that for myself.

 

 

Every day find a moment or two to reach into the beautiful space of your spirit and connect with it. Put reminders anywhere that you will see them. Paintings, poems, alters, candles, incense, books, litter your life with beautiful bookmarks to nudge you into the delicious space of love. We need reminders now more than we have done for a while. Our planet, our political situation, the energies of the past clinging on for dear life, we must be vigilant in staying in the space of light. You may have noticed how many more people are feeling lost these days which makes it all the more important to stick to the love you have within you. It's not only showing you the way to go in your own life, it's also subtly guiding others around you. You may not take them all the way but you may just be the catalyst, the glimmer of hope, the fraction of love they allow in to put them on course. What is the trajectory of your life? What is the trajectory of the love that you carry within you? You may know clearly, you may never know or meet all the lives that you touch but you have touched them, stay loving regardless.

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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What are you really asking for?

 

Freedom is the only currency that we are all seeking. We ask for money but what we really want is the autonomy within our lives to choose. To travel to where we want to go, to buy a house based on preference rather than budget and of course to have a job that allows all of this. Take some time to really think about the lifestyle that you would want to live. If you were suddenly given a billion pounds or if you had the chance to hit a reset button in your life what choices would you make differently? Delve into the delicious inner child and see what he or she would do with that freedom. I've been working on that a lot lately. What would I do with unlimited resources? I think I'd probably buy a house for me and Stu, I'd give him the option to go part time or quit altogether ( I doubt he would though ), I would travel to Japan, Canada, Paris and anywhere else that took my fancy. To be honest the core of what I do wouldn't really change. I'd still do my readings and I would still make art. What increasing my income would do for me is to give me more time with the people I love and more adventure. So when manifesting more wealth in my life it's important for me to know what wealth actually means. For me it's freedom and adventure.

 

 

What does wealth mean to you? If you truly ahd unlimited resources what charities would you support? I personally think I would try my best to help as many animals as I could. I'd pour money into an ethical treatment of animals law and lately I've ben thinking about having pet licenses. Maybe having a system in place where you have to prove your ability to look after an animal? I'm not entirely sure what would work but I would try as much as I could. How about you? Some people would support childrens charities or environmental causes, each of us has a different calling where that is concerned but then I suppose with unlimited resources you could help them all. That's the real benefit of defining what wealth means to you, it puts you in a place where you are forced to acknowledge what is important to you. It's an imaginary scenario I come back to time and time again. It just helps free my thinking each time so that I would really consider whether my goals are authentic or not. Is that path I am on an expression of my limited thinking or challenging the fabric of who I am?

 

 

The Universe responds to your energy not just the words you speak. Think about what words mean before you cast them into the Universe. What is their context, their agenda, their content? Sometimes what you are asking for and what you are getting become two different things because on an energetic level you are asking for something else. This is a fun exercise to help you look at your motives and really help you to clean up your energy agreements. Try it if you get some time today and see why it is you want what you want. I'm going to work it into my practice for a month or so whilst I carve out a new dream for myself. I can feel that this new house that me and Stu are currently manifesting is going to be a brand new platform for other things for me to create. It feels like a new door is opening and for that I need my mind to be as open and as receptive as possible and this is one of the many things I use to help me. Don't be too pragmatic, don't think about what is possible, at least not yet, just for a moment try to dream.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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When making a hard decision.

 

You can't get too far into your life without having to have made some hard decisions. In fact it's the main reason most people knock at my door! I say it often but I'll say it again here, your intuition is always a better psychic for you than I can ever be. All psychics really do is reflect the deep personal truths that you have habitually tried to forget, buried or just plain over looked and bring them to the surface. We don't create anything in particular, we just reveal what's already there. It's the real essence of a medium. We are vessels for all kinds of truths, personal ones, universal ones and spiritual ones. I do understand that maybe not everyone feels like they can hear spirits in the same way as psychics can but I am a firm believer in that we are born with everything that we will ever need, even if sometimes that's the insight to reach out for help. I think when viewed correctly psychics can become an enlightening part of your spiritual tapestry. We can point out things you might over look or help you rediscover a part of yourself that you had forgotten you can tap into. But if you abuse the dynamic then all that happens is that you get the same information over and over again or, spirits will just stop delivering information to the psychic.

 

 

As much advice as you illicit from people around you ultimately you have to make the decision for yourself. It's your life that will have to deal with any fall out as a result so it's always on your shoulders. In that quiet moment before you sleep you have to align yourself with your own dignity and sense of morality. Before you close our eyes the quiet chatter of your spirit is more easily heard and it is always calling you in the direction of your conscience. This is why I always think that it's best to do any sort of intuitive exercises before bed. Your conscious mind is tired by that point so your intuitive mind is much more free to play. I always advise journalling as a great way to start interacting with your intuition. Treat your intuition as a person and write a letter to it and then try writing a response from the imagined perspective of your intuition. You'd be surprised how much clarity can come from that exercise. I used to do it quite often but I'd forgotten about it until recently. Write down everything that you want help with and then ask that wonderful internal GPS where to go and what to do. Keep doing it and record the results.

 

 

Another thing I enjoy doing before bed is my gratitude practice. I slip in and out of it but each time I get back to it I always wonder why I let it go. Writing down what you are grateful for, for that day, puts you in control over what you are choosing to take from the day-sized chunk of energy you just experienced. This is turn hones your energy and of course with that comes an increased dialogue with your intuition. Look, I'm not trying to talk myself out of a job and I'm not buggering off either! I'll always be here doing my readings for all those that want some insight but I never want to foster the feeling that I am somehow necessary for your enlightenment, although, some of my favourite memories over the last 20 years is when I have been witness to spirit use my readings to create that catalyst of light. If right now you are facing something that feels tough, be aware that you are already sitting there with everything you need. The world is talking to you all the time. Sending you messages. Sending you people. Sending you light and grace. Just be open enough to listen and always, ALWAYS, follow your gut.

 

 

Thank you for listening,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Where do you find grace?

 

So a week ago I spoke to you about the magical morning I had when walking around the local park. The dew on the grass, the sun shining through the leaves and the silence that radiated from the ground up. There was another moment a few days ago when the house was all locked up and I just stared out of the window for a moment or two and drank in the energy of the Universe. I make it a point to make room for these small moments. I have become a collector of sorts of them and they are what I go back to when I find myself in a confused of conflicted moment. They are reminders for me that there is an order to the world. A plan of sorts. Some like to think that there is an individualised curriculum for each soul that incarnates whilst others think that we are all on the same journey towards expressing love. I personally think that we are all somewhere in the middle. Sometimes we learn and grow to become better vessels for light and sometimes we get to just dive in and enjoy the love of the Universe for what it is. It's all ebb and flow. I totally understand though that it can feel like the complete opposite sometimes and you don't feel particularly wonderful when you are convinced that the Universe may have forgotten about you.

 

 

This is when I let myself dive into these moments. I write about them, I draw them, I doodle them, I journal them. They are the platforms for all the inspiration I get to enjoy. Each morning for the last few months I have not only been writing my morning poem but also a morning prayer for my next book. I hit a milestone last week and I'm now at 60 of them! The goal is 108 for this particular one but nearly all of them come from that place of awe at the divine. It feels like the Universe is praying to you in that moment, asking you to remember that you are love, loved and loving. Sometimes clients share these moments with me, wandering down the beach with both feet in the water, picking up a sketchbook for the first time ever, watching their first grandchild fall asleep in their arms. These moments are precious, keep them and remember them. As I've said many times before that my spiritual practice has always been pretty fluid. The actions I have taken have gone from traditional meditation, yoga, art, dance, drumming and these days I've settled on poetry but each of them have a singular intention, to put me in a space that is welcoming of love.

 

 

My spiritual practice is a place where I ready my mind for those gentle moments of grace. I can't instigate them but I certainly want to be aware enough so that I don't miss them when they pass me by. They can happen anywhere and at any time. Everyone on a spiritual path has experienced them, so if you're reading this then you'll know what I'm talking about. Maybe you've had them but haven't recognised them for what they were? It's those moments when you feel like you're not only looking out into the world but you feel like the world is looking back. For no reason at all you'll begin to feel like you're falling in love and your problems feel a little less overt in your experience. If you haven't had one of these for a while then ask for one. Pray to God, the Angels, your family in spirit, it doesn't matter who or what you ask it's the asking that is the point. Just ready yourself for divine light and watch as it envelopes you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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When the slump feels nameless.

 

I can't help but feel heavy, a little lost, confused on a level I can't quite put my finger on but still the Universe feels like it's pulling at me. Calling me in one direction or another. The warm feeling that bleeds out through my heart and into my life is strong but still I am slowly, methodically, sifting through pieces of my life figuring out what I need to keep and what I need to let go of. I know this feeling and I've gone through it many times before. This is not a time to shut down and plough through, this is a time when I need to actively figure out what I need to do to be more emotionally and mindfully present. What I am experiencing is the labour pains of change. Even if something it going to dramatically shift your life in a positive direction you are still going to have to go through some form of this. If you are aware enough to know what's happening it will pass more quickly, if not, then you will find yourself wandering around your life not knowing entirely what is happening. Sound familiar? This “birthing” process of a new self takes time and it's inevitable that you will go through it sooner or later. There is a moment when who you are has to actively and consciously let go of who you were and that moment is always a mixed bag.

 

 

Identity is a wonderful thing although you may have noticed a lot of people seem to take it far too seriously. What you are is not who you are and it's the blurring of those lines that leaves so many in that lost space. If you define yourself by your actions, by what you do, what you earn, your job title then what happens if that is taken away? If I had a bump on the head and could suddenly no longer write how would that change me? Would I be a totally different person afterwards? I hope not. I would like to think that I would just gravitate towards something of equal or more merit. If I suddenly lost my psychic ability I wouldn't be any less inquisitive about the world. I wouldn't find people any less fascinating. I would still find a deep pleasure in watching people evolve into their happiest selves. Don't get me wrong it would suck and I would grieve the skill set but I would find another. Identity when it does not acknowledge the soul is a recipie for disaster. I'm not saying that you should abandon any affinity for the physical self, after all, playing in that arena is one of the many reasons we incarnated in the first place but also acknowledge that you are one of many. Even within the frame of your own body you are already a collaboration more than you are a single entity.

 

 

You are always on the road to becoming a bigger and brighter version of yourself. That is a given for the human experience. The only real choice we seem to have is whether we go willingly towards that expression of self or not. It is tricky to navigate sometimes because we will inevitably attach some parts of who we are to our physical experience. That in and of itself is not a bad thing. When utilised properly we all have the capacity not to just improve our own lives but through the clarity of example we can change the world around us. So if you find yourself in a slump that feels nameless then maybe you are just in the process of growing into a new phaze of you. Maybe life isn't tasteless, perhaps it's just creating a new flavour that you havent' quite reached for yet because you didn't realise that's what was happening? As always be gentle with your growth and see where it takes you. Let your intuition be your guide and remember that the Universe is always working towards what is best for the greater good which always includes YOUR greater good.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Dealing with fear.

 

The bed is made and I crawl down to the shower to wake up to the day. Soon after that I have my coffee, my trough of vitamins and a juice to sit with Stu for the 15 minutes we normally have before he goes off to work. We joking say “let's have our morning dose of propaganda!” as we switch the BBC on to see what's happening in the world and the sifting begins. It's tough to be able to find the actual news in amongst what is being said but without question nearly every segment is fear based and rooted in shock value. Shock value is just lazy marketing. Instead of seeking truth, finding inspiration and using love as a means to create community near enough everywhere you look each platform seems to be using fear to force us to tap into a primal instinct to gather in numbers during times of stress. It's written into us and it works most of the time. This is the root of mob mentality. People aren't gathering to discuss and create a better way in the world, they are gathering to identify the threat and annihilate it. You can really see this playing out everywhere from social media to business campaigns. In fact marketing 101 states that you “find a problem and solve it!”. Also if you can't find a problem you invent one.

 

 

Fear is quick in it's energy. It's designed to be. It's whole meter is to keep us alive, but like the adrenaline it inspires it doesn't last as long. In order to keep you in a cycle of fear the perceived threat has to get bigger, more menacing and it has to come at you from all angles. Fear causes a complete retraction of energy from the frontal lobe, our reasoning centers, and keeps us in flight or flight. The reason we see so many people acting so instrinsically selfish in our culture is because they are stuck in this fear based mindset. I'm not saying the fear isn't real but we have to move beyond it in order to heal. Love takes time. It's harder to build something in this world in a principled, dignified way BUT unfortunately we haven't left ourselves much room to check out from that. Love is now something that needs to be organised and propagated in the world in whatever you do. I advocate that everyone looking to make their lives and the lives around them better ask themselves regularly, “How can I show more love?”. That's not always about doing more but it is always about being more present. Taking time to look someone in the eyes when you talk, not being glued to your phone, going the extra mile to show a work mate that you care. Love takes time.

 

 

At some point the fear in the air becomes too much for anyone remotely spiritually aware and it's totally O.K to check out for a little while. I have been known to vegitate in front of Netflix for a few hours, or sometimes a few weeks when the world feels overwhelming. It's not a bad thing to do that, now building a whole lifestyle out of that turns it from self care and self soothing into a fear based lifestyle of it's own. Fear is not negative, if left to do the job it is supposed to do then it does it extremely well. What's happened is that fear has become politicized, marketed and our entire culture is becoming acclimated to it in a way I have never seen before. It's death by a thousand cuts. So as soon as you've read this today, take it as a call to arms. Stay informed about the world by all means but look at every fear based entity you encounter as an invitation to love. Don't react. Take your time. Think from the space of your heart about what you can do to act lovingly and compassionately and then go do it!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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A sacred morning.

 

 I peeled the duvet back and ran the gauntlet of getting up and dressed whilst keeping Oscar as quiet as I could. I give Stu a gentle kiss and he stirred just enough to ask where I was off before he rolled back over and continued snoring. I left the house as the first real bite of Autumn enveloped the air. My foot is getting better so the walk wasn't painful and Oscar and I slowly dawdled passed the trees and houses until we got to the park. Most dog walkers know that wonderful time first thing in the morning before a park is filled with the noise of kids and people bustling towards work. I saw plenty of other dog walkers wander around, coffee in hands and we are polite to each other but we all recognise the quiet time of this space. I watched the trees and felt God at every turn. The Universe was with me today. Gentle drops fell from the leaves of trees and shards of light burst through onto the ground creating a light show that felt like it was just for me. I couldn't help but repeat the words “Thank you.” each time I saw a display of nature more beautiful than the next. Then, as if be magic a white feather fell right in front of my face, to the point of where I jumped a little, and I held my hand out and it landed right in the centre of my palm. There couldn't have been any more learer a sign than the Universe was with me and that is enough.

 

 

As you all know I'm looking for a new home at the moment. This one has sold and it is a bittersweet feeling. I love this home but I know I can't stay here any more. What we have been seeing so far hasn't been suitable. It's as if everything is “almost”. I'll see a house on a street I've always wanted to live on but then the neighbours are students, or slobs, or the house will need gutting. It's happened three times. Or I'll find a house that seems lovely but it's so far out that I won't have the lifestyle that I love and to be honest, that's the crux. That's where I won't budge. I love being able to grab a coffee and walk my dog on the beach but I can't see the house I am in love with yet. I keep feeling like it is close though, as if I'm just about to turn a corner and there it is or maybe that corner is my perspective and I'll reinvigorate a place that I've already seen? I think we are looking for a forever home and that might be the issue, maybe it's not time for that yet, maybe we need just one more step before we settle for good? I'm unclear on that right now, I'm still meditating and moving towards what feels right and when nothing feels right I move towards everything and let my gut guide me.

 

 

Being an open channel I sometimes get frustrated that the Universe can't just tell me where to go and what to do. I see other people's energy maps so clearly that during times like this I wish I could see my own. I get fragments, I get glimpses but it's never as clear as someone else's. Still when I get a little bit too thought-heavy a day like yesterday happens. The world opens up a little and let's me look at all the in between spaces and I get a reminder that it's all working for me. There is real magic and real miracle in the world around you if you're brave enough to look. I go searching as often as I can and even though I don't feel any clearer on the subject that's bouncing around my head right now I do feel better about it. Sometimes the Universe stands with you in solidarity rather than solving your puzzle for you. It just lets you know that there is something to hold onto during times of stress or worry and that no matter what is going on there are reminders that you live in a Universe of love and plenty. We do. We really do.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Making course corrections.

 

There is an idea that the older you get the harder it is to make a change in your life. We all hear about the “Eat, Pray, Love” journeys where people just pack up their lives and jet off on wild and wonderful adventures but some don't have that kind of agency. Some people really are stuck in a financial hole that is hard to climb out of. Hard but not impossible. If you've ever had serious financial troubles you'll know that in those cases hope becomes a sword and shield that you have no choice but to pick up each day. That is the silver lining of that situation and that is the lens through which you can begin to create change. I live a pretty autonomous life but I still need to grow, I still need to evolve into whatever I am on a journey towards. I am finding more and more as I grow that I come up against an internal wall, the idea to not “rock the boat” and keep the steady status quo even though steady isn't always exciting. I think most of the limits we put on ourselves growing are always inside our own heads. I've come across people who are so immobilized by this that they have even stopped themselves from dreaming of a better life such is the pain of their own. Personally I like to know what my options are, even if they are limited I like to make a plan.

 

 

I think thats the nucleus of all change, the plan, the dream. You have to start somewhere. What if it's been so long that you don't even know where to start? Or what if you don't know what your dream even might be? Well if that's the case you're in luck. You happen to be born inside a Universe filled with choice. Start with the small things, where in the world would you like to visit? What would you like to see? What experiences would you like to have? For me I've always wanted to visit Japan and see the amazing origami centres there. I want to go to Canada and breathe in it's unspoiled nature I want to spend a few days in Paris, see all the tourist stuff in New York, drink coffee in Italy and continue to visit and explore my spiritual home Greece! For years I had so little money that these really were just pipe dreams but as I've grown and I've learned to plan more meticulously ALL of these dreams are becoming possible. The hurdle I find myself hitting is always in a creative goal setting and creative dreaming. I've caught myself on a few occasions scoffing at myself for wanting to play in a certain area. My own internal ageism has been chiming in which is a fairly new thing. Still, I want to make choices about my future based on whether I want to do them rather than whether I feel like I am too old to even start!

 

 

Being raised a bloke in our culture has given me a fairly acute sense of ownership. I am fully aware that I have had complete agency to move towards the things that I choose and I get the privilege of that whilst also understanding that not everyone has the same. Still, I really do feel that if you don't even let yourself dream and begin to explore those dreams then you aren't going to get anywhere. I don't want you just to create a mental space to retreat to, I want you to get an action plan. If it's saving a few quid a week or finding cheap art supplies to start creating, or finding maps of places you want to see make a move towards a dream. If you are finding a dream to move towards then start hanging around other dreamers. Find people who are doing what they love and start asking them out for coffee! You will start to pick up on that vibration and it will help. Like I often say you don't have to do it all but you will start to feel better if you just take a first step. A plan, a prospectus, looking at courses on line, the smallest step is still a step. You can do this!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Is politics spiritual?

 

I totally get it, you look at the current political climate and want to tear your own face off. With the knowledge that we are all born of light, built out of love and we collectively constructed an identity purely for the purpose of expressing that love it's bizarre to see the horrible things that human beings can do to each other and think about each other. Where's the compassion? Where's the love? Where's the army of light that can transform this planet into something cohesive? I'll give you a clue. It's right here, right now and you're already enlisted. I'm not easily horrified but even I have needed a few moments this last year to take in what's been happening and it doesn't take a psychic to see that the trajectory we are on is not amazing. So what can be done? What can we actually do? My advice is to continue working towards the best but also to be mindful enough to prepare for the worst. Firstly, we need to get a handle on our political structure. Politics and spirituality are one in the same. One is the power structure of our country and the other is the power structure of the soul. The more in alignment they are the better for everyone involved.

 

 

Voting is not enough and protesting doesn't work, at least not in the way that we are doing it. I've never quite understood how gathering with witty or scathing placards and walking around in a circle really does anything. Rioting only ever really hurts small business owners so where does that leave us? I do believe in protest and I believe in the power of a vote but I think in order for them to work we need to expand our definition of them. Every time you spend money you are voting. Every time you go to work for a company you are voting for their principles. Every time you put money into a bank you are voting for their ethical standards. Voting is not a one time thing we do, we do it daily. Protest is a moral statememt intended to differenciate you from the current power structure. It is an affirmation both to yourself and your tribe about your current moral agreements. Dialogue is crucial for protest to be effective. Screaming, ranting and just being plain angry in the streets doesn't work. We can be forceful, articulate and decisive but anger only perpetuates more anger. On the upside love also inspires more love.

 

 

It's easy to point at political figures like Teresa May and Donald Trump and tear them apart. It's easy to count all of the decisions they have made, the disregard they carry for certain sections of society and use them as vessels for our own frustrations. I get that I do. But you can't hold them to account truly without first holding to account the system that we have built that allow such abuses of power. I personally think that as a collective we have evolved past an “alpha male/female” paradigm. I think that our political system already works for a lot of people but it wouldn't take too much for it to begin to work for everybody. It can only do that if we stay informed. It can only do that if the spiritual community gathers and starts to seek out positions within the political community. It can happen if we start to talk about the kind of political system that we want. I know that I want one based in compassion. One that takes into account equality and equity for each individual. One that encourages contribution based behaviour and ethical evolution. I truly believe we are capable of this and it all begins with conversation and keeping tha conversation going. Treat your politics like you treat your alter.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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What's the right thing to do?

 

Our way of living on this planet is in crisis, we all know this. The strength of hurricane Irma , the earth quake in Mexico, we all know on a deep level that this is just the beginning of things. For too long we have lived arrogantly and assumed that the earth was here to serve us. We have approached our lives with such a short sighted mindset that we have tipped the scale and the Earth is now reacting in a way that we are forced to take notice. Animal agriculture has decimated so much of the rain forests, plastics have polluted our oceans and our refusal to switch to renewable energy has polluted the air. It's easy during times like this to point the finger externally and blame governments or industries but it's on us to make these changes. Ordinary, every day people learning to live a different way. Social change has always begun by a small group of radicals getting louder and louder, being more and more persistent right up until the tipping point of social change. None of us used to recycle, now we all do. No one had even heard of a vegan 20 years ago and now so many people are joining a cruelty free diet. This is having a major impact on the ecology and I know that it can feel a bit like, “too little, too late.” but I genuinely feel like the Earth has a capacity to re balance itself. It's just down to us whether we are part of that re balancing.

 

 

I believe human beings are wonderfully inventive. There's a reason our population has exploded to 7 billion. We have the capacity to adapt to so many situations and adapt the world around us to ours. Unfortunately human beings also have the capacity to be narcissistic to the point of neglect. It is here that the spiritual community has always come into play. We have the ability to help others to recognise the boundaries of their morality, their capacity for dignity and the importance of acting within your integrity. Our actions in the world are centred around the question, “What is the right thing to do?”. So many live on the premise, “How does this help me?” that moral obligations go right out the window. Worse still, with our culture becoming increasingly victim orientated and with martyrs wearing their victim hood like a badge of honour being so vengefully celebrated it's so easy for those who feel everything, the empaths, the spirit minded to slip into hopelessness. Recently I have caught myself in the midst of many “What's the point?” conversations with myself when a time has come for me to speak. If anything we need to be more vocal. If anything the voice of reason needs to be louder now. You've probably noticed like I have that there seems to be a regression, a regurgitation of issues that are flooding our communication and I think this is because we are almost too scared to deal with what is really happening within our world.

 

 

I'm not here to be all doom and gloom. There is real hope for the human species and it is on us to not only find it but to carve it into our every day actions. It is on us to inspire those around us through the clarity of our example to seek the most moral action for the collective. It can be as simple as changing your bank, changing your energy supplier, where you shop, what you buy, choosing to eat less animals, recycling, sharing information, using your social media to create social action. We will change through the strength of community. We will change through the understanding that human life is precious and that what we do to another human being we inherantly do to ourselves. When only one human being wins we all lose. We will change when we learn to see not just human life as precious but when we see the majesty in all living things. Every tree, every cow, every dog, every frog, every blade of grass is the nucleus of our Universe and to live mindfully is to live with a respect for all of these things. Choosing love is not just an abstract concept. It's not just a fluffy emotion, it's the hard choices, it's bring the unconcious choices to the surface. It's the ability to examine how you behave on the planet and ask yourself, “What is the right thing to do?”. Now, let's pull up our sleeves, we have work to do!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

www.facebook.com/psychicswansea

 

 

 

 

What to do when they attack.

 

There are 7 billion people on this planet, which means there are 7 billion egos seeking definition externally so to expect that we are all going to get along is just a little lofty. Disagreements are a natural part of the human experience. We all have our own flavours of light and we all like to express them as we choose. My rule of thumb is that if it isn't hurting anyone else then what's the problem?! But people have a habit of butting their noses in where it doesn't belong. As a gay man I grew up in a culture where the government, major religions and quite a few Joe Bloggs on the street thought that what went on in my bedroom was their business. So much so that they took it upon themselves to try and erradicate who I was and also take out anyone like me. This gave me quite a few skill sets on how to deal with conflict. It also helped to recognise conflict before it erupted into something toxic which has come in handy when it comes to other parts of my life.

 

 

I always think that the quicker you nip somethig in the bud the better but I also believe in second chances. If someone hurts you unintentionally then I always give it a little wiggle room, I still hold people accountable in the same way as I would hope they would do for me but that all changes when it comes to people who attempt to intentionally hurt me. That for me is black and white. If you go out of your way to say something horrible, attempt to threaten, or even attempt to engage me in a power play I will cut you out of my energy and never let you back in. I don't make a drama out of it, I don't even need to say anything half of the time but at that point the line is drawn and we are done. That doesn't mean I won't still hold love and forgiveness for you in my heart but that doesn't mean I give you any room in my life. One of the most important lessons I've learned is to hold people responsible for the energy that they bring you. If they attack you then you have the right to defend and define your boundaries but be wary of attacking back. Be mindful of your reaction. Those are the seeds that you sew for your own life.

 

 

I've been attacked professionally, publically and personally. I've been called everything from a con man to a mean old witch with cancer causing mind beams ( I kid you not ) and I am so grateful that my instinct within all of that is to say nothing. I understand that when people show you that side of themselves they are simply telling you who they are and it's up to you whether you make it anything to do with yourself. I can be hurt by what someone says but it's my choice whether to give what was said agency in my mind. There is a difference between the trauma of the interaction and the value you place on the exchange of words. A whole society once told me that I was dirty, subversive, lesser than. It hurt and it was traumatic but it was on my shoulders whether I chose to think those things about myself. I think the best way through these situations is to look at them through the lens of love. Look at those who attack you for what they are, broken people seeking definition externally who have yet to learn that love and compassion is an inside job. Take a breath and love them anyways!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

www.facebook.com/psychicswansea

 

Do you really self care?

 

Wednesdays are always a slow day for me. I do one evening a week which is a Tuesday for my cleints that work 9 to 5's which leaves me for most of wednesday day in a tired head space. Although to be honest my brain is tired but my body still needs to move so sitting and twiddling my thumbs is not really on the cards. I spend the whole morning healing, re balancing and getting my headspace back to where I can function properly. Art helps, coffee with friends helps and a good cuddle with the dog helps too. It's all the good self soothing tasks and if I invest in them properly then by early afternoon I'm clear again and get back to working. I understand that running my own business gives me a little more room to self care during times of stress and fatigue but what worries me is that I read so many clients who don't do any of this AT ALL! When there is no self care, even as a way to offset some unavoidable stress then you leave your entire energy system vulnerable. When you don't look after yourself, at the very least learning to understand the rhytms of your body you will not just become physically sick but you will leave yourself open to energy vampires left right and centre.

 

 

I know I've written a tonne of blogs on this already but it's only wednesday and I've had the conversation twice already this week, self care is MANDATORY not a luxury. The quicker you learn to look after yourself the quicker you will recover. I used to try and just plough through those parts of my week that left me fatigued and all that happened was that I got worse or, if I did manage to get through the work I had given myself I was so out of my mind by the time Stu got home from work that I wasn't enjoying my time with him. As you all know I work to serve the love within my life which includes the love of my life ( excuse the soppyness ) so that comes first. If you want to give the most loving version of yourself to your partner, your children, your family, your friends you must first discover what that is, how to make room for it and also learn to give that love to yourself first. I know it's not as easy as someone saying “When you're tired just rest!” because sometimes you have 3 screaming kids running around or your boss has decided you are a superhero and can do 4 people's jobs and even though you can find a meditative quality within that kind of chaos you need to, for your own sanity, find a way to carve out an hour at least for recovery.

 

 

I should point out as well that this is not how you deal with things when your life is becoming toxic. That is a whole other energy. If your job is energetically killing you then you need to make some real tough decisions about self preservation. The same with the lifestyle of your family. If it's wearing you to the point of break then an immediate shift needs to happen. There is a very thin line between self care and self preservation and I suppose in essence they are just two different ways of looking at the same thing except one is more gentle and the other needs an alpha type energy. Most of us are not in those spaces and self care is away not letting it get to the point of toxicity. So look at what you do to give yourself peace. How much time a day is spend unwinding properly? Looking at your phone doesnt' count! Think a little today about what you do to unwind and go from there. Try and work it into your routine! If you have any tips, let me know or share them below!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

 

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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The importance of setting intentions.

 

I've been talking a lot recently about the ebb and flow of the Universe. There are times when you are called to sink into the delicious guidance that is all around you and then there are times when you take a more alpha role and define what it is that you want. To some degree we are doing both all of the time but I've found in my life that there seems to be definite times when one is more dominant than the other. You can call them goals, dreams, manifestations, the languaging isn't important but there is a definite advantage to having an intention when you start your day or any project for that matter. For instance, my intention with this blog is to provide a touchstone for those seeking gentle reminders that they are part of the bigger picture. I want to provide a space where people can gather and begin an inner dialogue about how they are approaching their lives and hopefully by seeing the light at the centre of it can make a change for themselves. My intention hasn't changed over the years for this website although I think I language it better now but it has grown into something more than I thought it would be. I always liked the idea of being a part of someone's daily routine and that's happening.

 

 

I've always been a goal orientated person. I drive Stuart crazy with my endless lists but they really do help me to get clear about what I am doing and where it is going. An intention for me is like an organising principle that helps me to get focussed. For instance I love writing songs but having a collection of songs without them becoming an album just seems too messy for me. The same with my books or my paintings. I like to leave room to experiment creatively of course but I like a goal in mind, an intention so that there is a beginning, a middle and an end. Once the project is finished then I gather a different intention as to what to do with it. Sometimes I know what I am going to do with a project long before it's even started and sometimes it's an evolution but still, each Sunday night I sit with my idea sheets and lists, my candles and my coffee and I sort out what I can get done. This is not about productivity, it's about clarity. My intention with my relationship is to express love, my intention with my home right now is to find a new house, my intention with my health is to get better food in my body. Not all intentions are career based but the second you make them, the second you declare them to yourself something interesing happens. The Universe listens!

 

 

We all know by now that the Universe loves to fall over itself to bring you the best version of what you are asking for. It rises to the level you set for yourself. An intention is a boundary that the Universe can play with. If my intentions are unclear then I find that what I bring to myself is also hit and miss. If I know what I want and am clear about it but not attached to it, then it or something on the same energetic level turns up instead. “To it's equivalent or better.” is a manifestational principle I live by. I don't have to get exactly what I am asking for but something just like it or something even better is just as fine with me! So as the retrograde now finally slips away and we are getting clear again why not use this time to set a few new intentions for yourself. How do you intend to feel? What do you want to create? Have a play. I feel the gentle encouragement of the Universe at the moment for us all to ask for the things that we want or need so why not set the intentions and see what happens?! Good luck, take your time and don't worry.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Manifestational momentum!

 

Manifestation is the principle that what you choose to focus on within yourself will replicate within your environment. As within, so without. If you feel broke, loveless, under appreciated all the time and then you allow thoughts of that nature to exist within you dominantly, that is the energy that will rise to meet you in the world wherever you go. I know this is a huge over simplification of the process but it's important to understand that you don't always get back what you give out but you always get back what you are. The content of your inner life creates your outer. I truly believe in magical thinking, in the miraculous. That there are forces at work in the world that if we are mindful enough we get to brush up against. Inspiration, intuition, insight, grace. When we come up against these energies in our lives it elevates us and reminds us that the universe is not just a relentless force of nature but also a mindful, intentional, purposeful being built out of the substance of love. When we want to make changes to our lives we enter into a dance with this being, we don't always know where this dance will take us but just getting to the dance floor is often more than enough.

 

 

The problem that seems to stop both myself and the clients I work with is keeping the energetic space of where you want to be going in the present moment. It's so easy to get side tracked or swept away with old habits. For me, as with everything else, it's all about creating the right routine to stay connected. It's about a conversation with the Universe, a relationship if you will that needs tending to. If you want to create a job for instance then you obviously create a space within yourself for all the feelings you think you are going to have within that job. It takes very little time for that energy to start to show up physically. My rule of thumb is 3 weeks. If nothing, and I mean nothing has shown up in 3 weeks then you're off course somewhere. Normally when things manifest for me there is a formula. I put it out into the world and then I start feeling odd. Like I'm stuck in between two spaces. Still I stand inside the energy that I have created and the first thing that happens is the Universe shows me what might be in the way. This is where most people will get off the manifestation highway because they interpret this energy as a sign that they are on the wrong path. Maybe it is, there are no hard and fast rules but generally speaking if you stick to your guns and it passes then it's just a hurdle. Keep going.

 

 

After the 3 week period that's when manifestations start to come thick and fast. I start to meet people I wouldn't normally meet who put me in touch with people that have what I need and all the crazy stuff that the universe likes to throw in happens! The Universe gets to work and I let it use me to give us both what we want, Joy. Whatever it is you are currently creating for yourself, a lover, a new job, more friendships, more financial freedom, whatever it is please remember that you are opening a door to a journey that will change the foundation of your life. After all isn't that what you are asking for? Next weekend with all of this retrograde stuff out of the way why not spend a good amount of time designing your life. What do you want? Where do you want to be five years from now? What do you feel drawn to create? What does your day look like? How do you feel? Really play in that area until you find an energy that you like and then do whatever you can to hold onto that energy for 3 weeks. That's really all it takes for it to start replicating. Remember that all relationships function on good dialogue so be sure to listen when the Universe sends you something to do, it may be guiding you to exactly where you need to be.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

www.facebook.com/psychicswansea

 

 

The language of the soul.

 

You are not your thoughts, you are the awareness of them. You are not your feelings, you are the silent witness. The ego would have you think that you think therefore you are but your essence is the part of you that feels that deep longing to reconnect to a truth that lies deep inside the life you are living. The more you observe life the more you realise that there are no real rules, everything is ebb and flow and the most useful skill you can ever learn is to spend time learning the language of the world around you. We are both the expression of energy and the awareness of it. Learning to navigate between those two is the idea of identity that our entire life experience is centred around. The more you learn the beauty and ridiculousness of it the more you can easily language your life and move into a space that better suits you. All of our lives are movements through certain phazes and it can be difficult to recognise and be courageous enough to move through them. But we are born to move, to manifest, to play, to co create a life that is diverse experience. We are not meant to be stuck, to stay still for too long. The way human beings have structured our entire society is completely counter intuitive to the truth of who we are.

 

 

We are born to explore. To sift through the Universe and find ways to express and explore joy. We wake up inside these weird and wonderful bodies that carry these magnificent brains filled with thoughts and dreams and ideas and we get this huge playground to dance about in. Instead of seeing this wonderful platform for what it could be we found ourselves doing something different. We took it seriously. We mistook the sacred for power. We learned to survive and forgot how to thrive. We began to create lives that made it easy for us to sleepwalk through our existence. But the truth can't be supressed. Deep in the heart of us is unrelenting hope. We never truly let go of the idea that things can be get better. It's the driving force that keeps us waking up and trying long after it would appear that all hope is gone. I've even heard the soul itself described as the last grain on hope in a painful life. The point is that we are connected to the world around us and we are exchanging information all the time. We are collaborating, co creating and listening in to what is being said and learning to have an awareness of that will help you to co create something more intentional.

 

 

We are energy beings existing in a vibrational energy network. We know what to do and where to go because we learn to follow an impulse. Sometimes that's learned and purposed solely for survival within a set culture, othertimes it's the deep intutitive language that pulls you out of that mindset and into another. One is not better than the other. The problem we run into is that we have only been taught one of these and in order to live rich and purposeful lives we have to make room for them both. Acknowledging that you are more than flesh and bone is the first step. Just knowing that you are part of a huge network of light can sometimes be enough to begin the journey to honour your intuitive language. Understand that you are more than what is in front of you, more than who you have been taught to be, more than your idea of your future. You are unstoppable, you are creative and creating. You are mighty. Learn to fall in love with the language of your soul and you'll see more wonder, more joy and more sacred moments than you'll know what to do with.

 

 

Thank you for listening,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

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Getting love back on track.

 

 We have all woken up inside relationships that feel like they don't belong to us. We've all had some degree of looking at the person we are in some way shape or form “in love” with and realizing that we don't have the same feelings for them that we used to. I personally think that when you are brave enough to allow this realization within yourself that you are actually doing the relationship a huge favour. It's this birds eye perspective that can give you clarity on where you are or at the very least where you think you are. We all change, we all evolve and become different versions of ourselves. If we are lucky we grow even more so inside a relationship with someone who is not only aware of who you are but loves you for it too. I am so blessed to have that and as I've shared with you on here many times me and Stu have grown together and will continue to grow together for as long as the Universe allows our love to bloom. This doesn't mean that we don't have our bumps or that our routine can become lifeless. No matter what happens to our lives we both put the relationship first and I personally feel it is the nucleus of everything I create. The moments when I feel like we are getting distant are the moments I sit down and check myself for any room I might have made for disconnection and I course correct it.

 

 

We both treat our relationship almost as a separate entity to us. It's something we both aim to bring the best of ourselves to and we use it as a construct to have as much fun as possible. Basically we are both responsible for our own happiness, our passion and our ability to be vulnerable. We work on ourselves first and have a policy of complete, sometimes brutal truth with each other whilst creating a space that honours that. Routine plays a huge part in making our relationship work. So many people work at career plans and life plans but we seem to expect our relationships to just work. Each week at the top of my “to do” list is a question I take time over, “How can I show Stuart how much I love him?”. Then I take some time figuring out what I think might put a smile on his face. Some weeks it's as simple as organising a dog walk with a bag of chips after he comes home from work, some times it's a date night. Intuitively I look over the landscape of what we have and do my best to show up emotionally and spiritually for him. I see so many relationships go off course because they just haven't been maintained. You'd be surprised how big an impact re injecting acts of kindness can do to a couple.

 

 

There are of course those times when a relationship feels like it's beyond repair and in those moments I still give the same advice. Bring kindness, bring love and bring compassion to the space and watch as it alters. Sometimes this can be the catalyst of your love reigniting for the other person or it may just be your love reigniting for yourself. Either way no matter what scenario you wake up inside of, once you have awoken it's still your responsibility to respond to it. I've woken up inside relationships that have been so toxic that the most loving thing I could do was to leave immediately and I've woken up inside relationships where we have just served our time together. Either way I put love at the centre of all my decision making and I ensure that I am holding myself to account for the energy that I allow within myself and the energy that I bring to a space. Remember that relationships of all kinds are alters and can only work with what you put on them. Too often we look at what we are getting that what we are giving. To revive the love within our lives we must first revive it within ourselves.

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James xx

 

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

 

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What can I get for you?

 

Energy attracts everything that is on it's level. We have all heard of this in some form or another. It's not just about thinking positively, it's about getting into the energetic space of the things you want as if they are already here with you. If you want love, be loving, if you want money, be abundant, it's that principle which I know can be easily over simplified but the nucleus of it is to encourage you to define what it is that you actually want and why. I encourage you to go into great detail when you are in a co creative mode. I literally drew out floor plans when I was manifesting this house and I am reminding myself to do the same now that I am looking again. I feel like right now the Universe is calling me to ask more. There are those times when we are guided to sit back and coast and then there are times when the Universe would like some instruction. The way it get's instructed we spoke about yesterday but fot today let's delve a little deeper into what it is that we want to create. We all want more money right? But when it comes down to it, how much? What would you like your bank to say? What would you like to earn a month? Doing what? Where? How many hours? Really get into the nitty gritty of what it is you would like the Universe to deliver to you.

 

 

It's at this point where a few people will be forced to admit something powerful, that they don't exactly know what they want. Hear me when I say this, THAT'S OK! It's fine to not know. We live in a Universe that has so much choice that it can be overwhelming and sometimes we can feel pulled in too many directions. At that point my advice is to manifest certainty. Manifest clarity. Make your goal/idea/dream to know what it is that you would like. You don't have to find your life's purpose or anything too grandiouse, all you have to figure out is what it is that is calling your heart today and then be brave enough to follow it. You don't have to get your life's plan together all in one go, to be honest, every time I've gotten a plan together something better has shown up and I've scrapped it. I still do plan though, I find ithelps me to access the energetic feeling space of where I want to be. The more I behave as if what I want is already here the quicker it, or something very much like it ( like I said you attract what is on that level ) will come. Sometimes what I ask for and what I get on the surface seem like two different things but they have the same result. They answer the why inside my want.

 

 

Once you have your millions of pieces of paper, your vision boards, your charts and you are actively starting to work towards what it is that you want to create that's when you have to start to do something that feels counter intuitive. That's when it's time to let go. To place it in the hands of the Universe. Keep working, keep moving, stay fluid and understand that in the moment you hand it over is when things move. The process of handing over can be as simple as a self invented ritual or a symbolic gesture. The Universe doesn't care about those mechanics, it hears what's in your heart. I go for a walk in the trees and offer my life/problem/dreams over the Universe verbally. I pray it out. It's at the point the magic really begins. Your dream may be torn to pieces because it wasn't meant to actualise, it may be deconstructed and reborn as something better or it may simply be delivered to your doorstep. That's the risk you take with every dream. It may crash and burn. It may not be for you. It may not be for you right now. When you surrender to the greater will through one thing is for sure, there is no lack. Even if what you ask for is taken away something better will be put in it's place. The trick is learning to see it. Take your time. Get your journals out. The Universe is asking you it's favourite question, “What can I get you?”.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

www.facebook.com/psychicswansea

 

 

The language of co creation.

 

When you close your eyes at night what do you think of? Who do you think of? In that sacred space between sleep and awake what do you dare to dream about? Retrograde brings with it sometimes unhealthy amounts of self analysis but then sometimes it can bring you exactly what you need. For me this has been a time of gentle awakenings and repointing me in a direction that I need to go in. Like so many I can become easily thrown off course and into a cycle of reacting to the world instead of actively participating in it. Because my work can be so overwhelming I have a whole system in place that deals with that overwhelm and sometimes that system can feel like it's swallowing up my life. It may be different for you, taking care of your children, keeping money coming into the house or just dealing with family can give rise to a habit of either numbing yourself to the trauma of that or finding ways to off set it. Both are valid in the short term but do either of them for longer than a few months and you'll soon find yourself in a little bit of trouble.

 

 

We know by now that the Universe rises to meet you wherever you are so what does that mean for us? What does that mean when we are asking for something and it isn't being given? It means that we aren't really asking, we are thinking. We are demanding that the Universe learn the language we have invented within ourselves instead of us learning how to communicate with the Universe at large. We are part of a beautiful energetic system that responds to movement and energy. All energy is fluid, like a drop of water in the ocean when it moves it effects everything around it. When it stays still it also has that effect on it's surroundings. So if you are co creating something with the Universe ask by defining what it is you want within yourself and then move towards it. It's the movement that is the languaging process. When I act towards something I am telling the Universe that this is what I want. At this point my intuition is engaged and if it's not for me I will be shown, that is true for everyone. If it is a path you are meant to follow then doors will open and passions within you will ignite in a way that is undeniable.

 

 

This is why it is so important to keep an eye on your relationship to yourself. That is what will dictate whether you have the courage to move in the direction of where you want to go. The older you get the more important it is to cultivate that courage. When you are young there is this idea that there is a lot more time ahead of you so there's room and cultural acceptance that you are going to make mistakes. We seem to lose that compassion for each other the older we get. It takes real courage to dare to dream when you grow. I am so blessed that I have met so many wonderful clients over the years who have been beautiful examples of that courage and I am finding myself drawing upon that more and more the older I get. It can be so easy to take yourself down the route of numbing yourself down under the guise of “playing it safe” or “growing up”. This is also not an excuse to act irresponsibly. You have to look after your basic needs but I also think that includes what is in your heart. If you are reading this blog take it as a note from the Universe that there is a dream within you that needs your attention. You most likely know what it is the question becomes are you going to be courages enough to invest time and action into it?

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big love,

 

 

Ryan James x

www.psychicswansea.co.uk

www.facebook.com/psychicswansea

 

 

 

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